Sometimes, it is easier not to talk about it. Not necessarily denial, but just pushing it back a little so that we can have some peace and quiet. If I could, I wouldn't talk about it at all, but it's like having an elephant in the room. I can still smell the peanuts on his breath.
I would say give your dad and family some room to breathe. There will plenty of talk eventually, in fact, it may be all you talk about, instead of reassuring him of your love and concern, and talking about more pleasant things that you may have talked about if he didn't have PC.
Age 58, PSA 4.47 Biopsy - 2/12 cores , Gleason 4 + 5 = 9
Da Vinci, Cleveland Clinic 4/14/09 Nerves spared, but carved up a little.
0/23 lymph nodes involved pT3a NO MX
Catheter and 2 stints in ureters for 2 weeks .
Neg Margins, bladder neck negative
Living the Good Life, cancer free 6 week PSA <.03
3 month PSA <.01 (different lab)
5 month PSA <.03 (undetectable)
6 Month PSA <.01
1 pad a day, no progress on ED. Trimix injection
No pads, 1/1/10, 9 month PSA < .01
1 year psa (364 days) .01
15 month PSA <.01