NEIrish writes: When should the question of depression be medically addressed after PCa treatment? My "Quiet Man" is getting quieter...
I am going through something similar, but Ron has escaped through sports - mostly watching football games. Do you know how many days a week football is on television? I do. I have brought the Grandchildren to visit, and he enjoys that but gets tired quite quickly. We also rent videos on the weekend. Ron is experiencing sadness fot three reason:
1. The pain in his most fragile area that just won't go away.
2. The need for pads/Depends after 4 weeks.
3. Feeling so tired when he previously was active.
We are still postponing intimacy, although we hug and kiss. But I feel great sadness for my husband. I love that he has survived cancer, but I wish we could go somewhere. He says he is fine with the way it is now until he feels better. We have a huge family gathering on Sunday, but he prefers not to attend this year because of his problem. For now, I can handle it. He will see his doctor again in about 2 weeks, and we'll see what will be done about his pain.
So that's where we are.
BTW, the second thread I posted on was about Wives Depression. Those ladies aren't here now, although I do email two of them.
Husband Ron, age 63
4/1/10 PSA 5.5 Prostate size = 50 cc.
Biopsy on 4/20/10 12 samples... Adenocarcinoma: 3 positive on right side, one core left base (5% ` 0.5 mm) - two cores of left lateral mid
(20% ~ 2mm, 10%, 10% ~ 1mm) - No Perineural Invasion
Gleason 6 (3+3)
Bone Scan/CT Negative (2 lesions on liver)
8/18/10 - Da Vinci Prostatectomy
Post Op: Gleason 7 (3+4)
Negative surgical margins and lymph nodes
Both nerve bundles spared
Catheter - 13 days