I had little trouble at night - still wear a pad just in case, but probably only have a flood once or twice a month. That has been the case from day one post-cath.
My Uro said that holding at night was a very good sign for overall continence.
Day-time is a whole different story. To a point I agree with Fairwind - you have to get motivated to get out, but I could not physically have done what he did that early, so we represent that "everyone has a different recovery" answer you will get often.
I was an open spigot for two months, then started getting better a little at a time.
I was doing kegels from day one post-cath, walking in the morning. For me, for whatever reason, doing the kegels at intervals during the day, then getting out a walking a little made a difference. I believe that changing from one walk a day to multiple shorter ones, pairing the activity in more blocks of less each was the turning point.
That said, at DaVinci + 11 months, I still leak (1-3 pads a day). This was probably set in stone by my IGRT this spring, but I still do the Kegels as before.
So, work at the Kegels and at least a short walk at intervals. The day I went for my cath removal, the guy before me walked out dry. No Depend pant, no leaks on the floor. Same day, same surgeon, same procedure, I flooded the exam room floor, and was in Depends pants for three months. We are all different.
I was also a G4+5, EPE, positive margins all over the place.
As to the TNM scores - N can be:
X - not assessed
0- no tested lymph nodes show involvement
1,2,3 - involvement, with the size indicated.
(according to the Cleveland Clinic Guide to Prostate Cancer, 2009 - you can also find that chart on wikipedia, look for the TNM system).
You will have to have the path report to know how many lymph nodes were tested and which, if any, were positive.