kbota: The doc was feeling badly and communicated the news of one patient to another patient. He's human, and it's good that he has empathy for those in his care, BUT perhaps he should have kept the news to himself and used a more appropriate outlet to vent his own emotions, other than to another patient with the same cancer in his practice. You've said it saddened you (I'd expect nothing less from most on this site) but do you feel it was something you benefited from knowing since you're relieved to be not walking in that poor mans shoes, or was it something that brought you more distress? "First do no harm" is their oath. What do you think the knowledge ultimately did to you?
Mr Irish; You are absolutely correct and I have certainly considered your exact points. I was discussing with my wife that I could have gone a long time without hearing about
that. I felt tremendous grief for this gentleman. The other thing I've thought is that it suggests how I should prepare my own life. Now, I'm not nearly in this fellows situation, and I plan to live several more years, but,.......I am a gleason 9. I have found nothing good or encouraging about
a G 9. There are a few success stories out there, and I am very proud of those guys, and thankful for them. They give me hope, especially since mine was organ confined,...but....statistically, I will deal with a recurrence at some point in the future. The only question seems to be when.
As for my doc being human. In a perfect world, he would have considered the impact it would have on me, and kept it to himself, as there was nothing I could do except empathize with both of them, and pray for the fellow in trouble....hmmm....Maybe that is my purpose?
However, I cannot fault the doc. Maybe he felt that he and I have a solid enough relationship that he could unload a little, at a time when he obviously needed to. It's a huge burden to carry don't you think?
The bottom line is that what's done is done, what's said is said. We cannot take back the spoken word....no matter how hurtful it might be, which is why I have tried to be much more careful in my "mature" years.
Certainly I will get over this much better than the gentlemen with advanced disease, and he has yet another person praying for him that he doesn't even know of. Personally, I can accept that.