Welcome to both of you. I wish more spouses/partners were involved on here.
Sorry to hear about the melanoma. One of our other close brothers on here wife is battling multiple myeloma. This cancer is just not fair.
It is good to hear that you are calm and rational, and looking at all the options. Keep reading and reading. The internet is so great. I can't imagine having PC before the internet.
Good luck on your journey and keep us in loop. Once you decide on your selected treatment option, go, and never look back. Second guessing can be a killer. Hindsight is a luxury we don't have looking forward.
Age 58, PSA 4.47 Biopsy - 2/12 cores , Gleason 4 + 5 = 9
Da Vinci, Cleveland Clinic 4/14/09 Nerves spared, but carved up a little.
0/23 lymph nodes involved pT3a NO MX
Catheter and 2 stints in ureters for 2 weeks .
Neg Margins, bladder neck negative
Living the Good Life, cancer free 6 week PSA <.03
3 month PSA <.01 (different lab)
5 month PSA <.03 (undetectable)
6 Month PSA <.01
1 pad a day, no progress on ED. Trimix injection
No pads, 1/1/10, 9 month PSA < .01
1 year psa (364 days) .01
15 month PSA <.01