Welcome to HealingWell. You'll be seeing a lot of differing responses but they're for most part pretty good ones. The first thing I would say is don't panic, go slow, and learn as much as possible because knowledge is power.
I run a large prostate cancer support group in Las Vegas and just this last week we had a Harvard guy giving us a fantastic presentation on integrative oncology. This is the concept of treating everything (mind, body, and soul) not just the cancer. I understand that Memorial Sloan Kettering has a terrific integrative oncology program and that leads me to my first recommendation: get an oncologist that specializes in prostate cancer. You may eventually still use your urological oncologist, but that is only a piece of the puzzle. A strong oncology program is a complete program. That speaker I had last week has a wonderful website on integrative oncology and here it is:www.integrativeoncology-essentials.com/
Please note that I was diagnosed with Gleason 7 and a PSA of 20, and after surgery I was unfortunately "downgraded" to stage 3B. This was 4 years ago and I am doing well. My cancer is in remission. Your father can do well for a very long time, but he has to be a part of his own getting well.
For you I have a piece of advice for also, continue loving your father and help him be his own advocate. You can do this by doing just what you did ~ reach out to the surviving community. Bring your questions to our forum and get some ideas. But most important, help your father stay positive. Attitude goes a long way.
May peace and love always be with you and your parents.
Advanced Prostate Cancer at age 44 (I am 48 now)
pT3b,N0,Mx (original PSA was 19.8) EPE, PM, SVI. Gleason 4+3=7
RALP ~ 2/17/2007 at the City of Hope near Los Angeles.
Adjuvant Radiation Therapy ~ IMRT Completed 8/07
Adjuvant Hormone Therapy ~ 28 months on Casodex and Lupron.
"I beat up this disease and took its lunch money! I am in remission."
I am currently not being treated, but I do have regular oncology visits.
I am the president of an UsTOO chapter in Las Vegas
Blog : www.caringbridge.org/visit/tonycrispino
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