Good point, AN38.
I have no problems with the 'even heated discussions', I think they are healthy. The problem I have is the thin skins and lack of tolerance for others and the turning a discussion into something personal and attacking others, calling them names, slipping in sarcasm, and just generally losing it. The only time I have any interest in editing or deleting anything or anyone is when the subject and participants turn into making it personal.
I really dislike seeing anyone carry an argument and seeing them slowly, post by post, becoming more frustrated, angry, and becoming even paranoid about
others motives in the thread. That's the point I will clean up some of it, usually individual comments when they cross the line. If it seems that the discussion can't be returned to something productive, then it's time to lock it and move on.
Just because you (the collective you, not the personal one) think some discussion is really intellecually stimulating for you, or you have had much experience in debating issues or even that you are absolutely sure you and only you see the one and true truth about
something, doesn't mean that you have the right to continue to pound in your point repeatedly, until the time comes that others just have had enough and will begin to strike back. Someone suggested that we make our points once or twice, then stop arguing about
it and move on. A smart suggestion.
Well, what I meant to say is if you are edited or deleted, then it is because you have violated the rules, usually by calling someone a name that isn't respectful, or you made a heavy use of sarcasm, or you called someone out, even without saying their name, which is obvious to all. If you provoke a response, don't act all innocent and get upset when you are edited. It isn't the subject that causes it but the subject participating. Also, further rebuttals by the offended party does have to edited out also, so it begins to appear that we/I am taking sides, but we aren't. Sadly, it's the age old problem, the human in the machine.
AS I said, discussions are fine, even long uninteresting ones, just don't cross the line into personal attacks or attempting to show how clever you are at sneaking slights and slurs in.
James C. Age 63
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4/07: PSA 7.6, 7/07 Biopsy: 3 of 16 PCa, 5% involved, left lobe, GS6
9/07: Nerve Sparing
open RRP, Path: pT2c, 110 gms., all clear except:
Probable microscopic involvement of the left apical margin -GS6
3 Years: PSA's .04 each test until 04/10-.06, 09/10-.09- Uh-Oh, next in Feb.