Welcome to HW, sorry for the lousy reason why you are here. I understand somewhat how you are feeling now. I lost my father to cancer this August and it was really difficult , as an adult child, in knowing what my role should be and how I could be the best use for him.
Your father has probably suffered a severe shock to his emotional system. He most likely is depressed right now and even going thru the stages of grief and loss. No one who has not been terminally ill can ever understand what they are feeling and thinking. My dad never did let me in , never shared his feelings about
being diagnosed and told he had less than 6 months to live. Something about
that generation requires them to buck up and be a man about
Your mother also is facing something similar. Hopefully, as they adapt to this new reality, they both will become more
open and willing to share and accept support from you and your siblings. This is just my personal feeling, but I would take every opportunity for you and your siblings to visit with them. They need the attention and diversion from these major things they are dealing with. You need to see him and her and find some way to say goodbye, if he is really that seriously ill. Good luck with your decisions and know that you and your family is in my prayers.
James C. Age 63
Gonna Make Myself A Better Man tinyurl.com/28e8qcg
4/07: PSA 7.6, 7/07 Biopsy: 3 of 16 PCa, 5% involved, left lobe, GS6
9/07: Nerve Sparing
open RRP, Path: pT2c, 110 gms., all clear except:
Probable microscopic involvement of the left apical margin -GS6
3 Years: PSA's .04 each test until 04/10-.06, 09/10-.09- Uh-Oh, next in Feb.