I'm 64, Jeff. As far as what I did to "get Junior working," it just sort of happened one night as I was laying in bed. Please be aware, he was far from being hard, but he did respond to some gentle play on my part.
I am in the frozen north and had been doing lots of daily walking (on and off the golf course!). Now, I'm confined to daily workouts in my basement gym and riding an exercise bike.
For the incontinence, I'm doing 3-4 sets of 10 kegels daily. I recently told my doctor that I can now crack walnuts between my butt cheeks!