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darlin
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Date Joined Apr 2010
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   Posted 1/9/2011 5:32 PM (GMT -6)   
 
  I just buried my husband,Best friend one week ago, I can say without a doubt,when my husband was told that he was  terminal,he lost all fight that he had,he had been given a death sentence,it was all over,  when he last asked how much time and was told no more than a month.........I just want to say to you that have this facing you "you have to fight this don't give up,stay positive,keep trying,my husband couldn't , now I only have a photo,he will always be in my heart,but I so miss him being in my arms.

BB_Fan
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Date Joined Jan 2010
Total Posts : 1011
   Posted 1/9/2011 6:02 PM (GMT -6)   
Very sorry for your loss darlin, and very much appreciate you thinking of others in your time of sorrow and grief. I will pray for you and your BF.
Dx PCa Dec 2008 at 56, PSA 3.4
Biopsy: T1c, Geason 7 (3+4) - 8 cores, 4 positive, 30% of all 4 cores.
Robotic Surgery March 2009 Hartford Hospital, Dr Wagner
Pathology Report: T2c, Geason 8, organ confined, negitive margins, lymph nodes negitive - tumor volume 9%, nerves spared, no negitive side effects of surgery.
PSA's < .01, .01, .07, .28, .50. HT 5/10. IMRT 9/10.
PSA's post HT .01, < .01

Purgatory
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Date Joined Oct 2008
Total Posts : 25364
   Posted 1/9/2011 6:04 PM (GMT -6)   
I am very, very sorry for your loss and broken heart. I hope you can find some peace of mind in the future.

David
Age: 58, 56 dx, PSA: 7/07 5.8, 10/08 16.3
3rd Biopsy: 9/08 7 of 7 Positive, 40-90%, Gleason 4+3
open RP: 11/08, on catheters for 101 days
Path Rpt: Gleason 3+4, pT2c, 42g, 20% cancer, 1 pos marg
Incont & ED: None
Post Surgery PSA: 2/09 .05,5/09 .1, 6/09 .11. 8/09 .16
Post SRT PSA: 1/10 .12, 4/8 .04, 8/6 .06 11/10 Not taking it
Latest: 6 Corr Surgeries to Bladder Neck, SP Catheter since 10/1/9, SRT 39 Sess/72 gy ended 11/09, 21 Catheters, Ileal Conduit Surgery 9/23/10

geezer99
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Date Joined Apr 2009
Total Posts : 990
   Posted 1/9/2011 6:12 PM (GMT -6)   
Dear Darlin,
Nothing we could say can assuage your loss. Yet each of us, and our partners, have faced the fear that has taken your husband.. There are no words for your loss, except to say that we have uttered those same words, and in our hearts can join with you in your grief.

Each of us will remember you and your husband in our own way, some in our hearts and some in our prayers. But know that we know your pain and we care.

Red Nighthawk
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Date Joined Oct 2009
Total Posts : 289
   Posted 1/9/2011 6:16 PM (GMT -6)   
Darlin, I am so, so sorry for you. Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers tonight.

john

tatt2man
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Date Joined Jan 2010
Total Posts : 2840
   Posted 1/9/2011 6:22 PM (GMT -6)   
Darlin
- so sorry for your loss - you have our condolences.
- I have read your previous postings and want you to know you did your best for your husband - your best friend.
- your kind words will help others.
hugs
BRONSON

Cajun Jeff
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Date Joined Mar 2009
Total Posts : 4088
   Posted 1/9/2011 6:45 PM (GMT -6)   
Darlin, Such a sad time for you. Grief is so difficult know that we are all sad with you and sending you our love.

Cajun jeff
9/08 PSA 5.4 referred to Urologist
9/08 Biopsy: GS 3+4=7 1 positive core in 12 1% cancer core
10/08 Nerve-Sparing open radicalSurgery Path Report Downgrade 3+3=6 GS Stage pT2c margins clea
r3 month: PSA <0.1
19th month: PSA <0.1
2 year PSA <0.1
Only issue at this time is ED but getting better

clocknut
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Date Joined Sep 2010
Total Posts : 2649
   Posted 1/9/2011 7:35 PM (GMT -6)   
So sorry to hear of your loss.  We will keep you in our prayers.  I'm sure your husband found great consolation in knowing that he had such a loving wife.

Tim G
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Date Joined Jul 2006
Total Posts : 2286
   Posted 1/9/2011 7:51 PM (GMT -6)   
I am so sorry to read about your loss of your husband and best friend.  May the memory of your wonderful life together be a comfort to you as you grieve his loss.  Take care.
 
Tim

Julietinthewoods
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Date Joined Sep 2010
Total Posts : 309
   Posted 1/9/2011 7:59 PM (GMT -6)   
I'm so sorry. :(

Juliet

Magaboo
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Date Joined Oct 2006
Total Posts : 1210
   Posted 1/9/2011 9:43 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi Darling,
Please accept my most heart felt condolences on the passing of
your husband. Remember that he will live in your memories for ever.
All the best to you.

Mag.
Born 1936
PSA 7.9, Gleason Score 3+4=7, 2 of 8 positive
open RP Nov 06, T3a, Gleasons 3+4=7, Seminal vesicles and lymph nodes clear
Catheter out 15 Dec 06, Dry since 11 Feb 07
All PSA tests in 2007 (4) <.04
PSA tests in 2008: Mar.=.04; Jun.=.05; Sept.=.08; at SRT Start=0.1, Salvage RT completed (33 days-66Gy) 19 Dec 08
PSA: in Jan 09 =.05, all tests to date (Jul 10) <.04

Swimom
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Date Joined Apr 2006
Total Posts : 1732
   Posted 1/9/2011 10:41 PM (GMT -6)   
Darlin,

I am so sorry for your loss. Thoughts and prayers are with you.

God Bless,

Swim
 Hilarem datorum diligit Deus

Jakester
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Date Joined Aug 2009
Total Posts : 284
   Posted 1/9/2011 10:45 PM (GMT -6)   
So very sorry to hear of your husband's passing. He must have been a wonderful and brave man and most fortunate to have found the same qualities in his loving wife.

Jake
Dx 8/08 Pre-op psa 4.2, Age 60, 7 of 12 biopsies positive 3+3
DaVinci LRP 11/08, - margins, - EPE, vascular or perineural. Gleason 3+4=7, 5-10% of 4.
3 mo psa .1 2/09, 6 mo .1 5/09, 9 mo .2 8/09
broke ankle bones 6/09, 9/21/09 Bone scan clear, psa still .2
01/05/10 psa .3, SRT 01/19/10 start 39 sessions 70.2gy, psa @ 6 wks into IMRT .4; Post SRT psa @ 10 wks (5/10) .2, @20 wks .1, @8 mo still .1

Sleepless09
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Date Joined Jul 2009
Total Posts : 1267
   Posted 1/10/2011 12:03 AM (GMT -6)   
Darlin, what rotten news. I remember when you first posted last April that you two were both facing tough times, but I had hoped and prayed the drug he had started would give you both far more time than this.

I grieve for you, and with you, this evening.

I also want to thank you for your good advice. Each person is different, each handles news in their own way. It is well for us here to give this some prior thought as to what we'd want. And to make our decision clear to our doctors, although in this day and age I fear that law suits have forced doctors to often put aside common sense and caring decisions in favor of brutal facts documented in patient files to protect themselves.

May his memory, and good times, help heal you and your family,

Sheldon AKA Sleepless
Age 67 in Apil '09 at news of 4 of 12 cores positive T2B and Gleason 3 + 3 and 5% to 25% PSA 1.5
Re-read of slides in June said Gleason 3 + 4 same four cores 5% to 15%
June 29 daVinci prostatectomy, Dr. Eric Estey, at Royal Alexandra Hospital Edmonton one night stay
From "knock out" to wake up in recovery less than two hours.  Actual surgery 70 minutes
Flew home to Winnipeg on July 3 after 5 nights in Ramada Inn  ---  perfect recovery spot!
Catheter out July 9
Final pathology is 3 + 4 Gleason 7, clear margins, clear nodes, T2C, sugeron says report is "excellent"
 
Oct 1st 09 -- dry at night, during day some stress issues.
Oct 31st padless 24/7 
 
First post op PSA Sept 09  less than 0.02
PSA on Oct 23, 2009 less than 0.02
PSA on Jan 8, 2010  less than 0.02
PSA on April 9, 2010 less than 0.02 
PSA on July 9, 2010 (one year) less than 0.02
  

EnglishBob
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Date Joined Jan 2011
Total Posts : 126
   Posted 1/11/2011 11:11 AM (GMT -6)   
Hiya,

I am so sorry to hear of your loss but i firmly believe that those we love, never really leave us. Know that when you are looking at his photo that he is stood with you, its just that you cannot see him. Even death cannot beat love.

You are in all our thoughts and i send you healing prayers for yourself, Bob.

James C.
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Date Joined Aug 2007
Total Posts : 4462
   Posted 1/11/2011 11:38 AM (GMT -6)   
I am so sorry for your loss. Thoughts and prayers are with you. Thanks for sharing your story and helping to give us strength and uplifted spirits.
James C. Age 63
Gonna Make Myself A Better Man tinyurl.com/28e8qcg
4/07: PSA 7.6, 7/07 Biopsy: 3 of 16 PCa, 5% involved, left lobe, GS6
9/07: Nerve Sparing open RP, Path: pT2c, 110 gms., clear except:
Probable microscopic involvement-left apical margin -GS6
3 Years: PSA's .04 each test until 04/10-.06, 09/10-.09, 01/11-.09
ED-total-Bimix 30cc

Casey59
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Date Joined Sep 2009
Total Posts : 3172
   Posted 1/11/2011 11:42 AM (GMT -6)   
I am very sorry to hear your news.
Peace be with you.

lennybob
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Date Joined Dec 2010
Total Posts : 99
   Posted 1/11/2011 8:40 PM (GMT -6)   
Darlin,
I am so sorry. I have prayed for you and will continue to do so.
Lynn
Age 53...51 when diagnosed.
February/09 PSA 11...GP discoverd during yearly physical...referred to Urologist
Biopsy found cancer, Gleason score of 6.
July 2009...Nerve-Sparing open radical prostatectomy.
Doing very well...only issue is ED and that is getting better.

gold horse
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Date Joined Nov 2009
Total Posts : 360
   Posted 1/12/2011 8:38 AM (GMT -6)   
Like the brothers and sisters in here I also join them in prayers to let you know we share your
pain.

Skate
Regular Member


Date Joined Oct 2010
Total Posts : 424
   Posted 1/12/2011 8:48 AM (GMT -6)   

Darlin:

I am fairly new to this forum and am not fully aware of your story.  I also would like to express my sincerest feelings to you, your family and your loss.  From the many posts I have read here,  you and your husband are individuals to remember. I am inspired to look back on your history of posts so that I can remember as well.

Jack


Age 59 at Diagnosis
01/08 PSA 4.17 DRE showed node
03/08 RP - Nerve Sparing, margins clear, no invasion
Continent 3 weeks post surgery / ED
06/08 until 08/09 PSA 0.01
08/09 PSA .14
09/09 RT / 36 treatments
01/10 PSA .13
08/10 PSA .6
10/10 PSA 1.67
08/11/10 PSA 3.44
16/11/10 Casodex Blockade
14/12 /10 Finished Casodex
30/11/10 Zoladex ADT
ED only SE

Tony Crispino
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Date Joined Dec 2006
Total Posts : 8128
   Posted 1/12/2011 5:32 PM (GMT -6)   
From our home to yours is a a prayer for love and peace to you and your family. I am so sorry for your loss.

Tony
Disease:
Advanced Prostate Cancer at age 44 (I am 48 now)
pT3b,N0,Mx (original PSA was 19.8) EPE, PM, SVI. Gleason 4+3=7

Treatments:
RALP ~ 2/17/2007 at the City of Hope near Los Angeles.
Adjuvant Radiation Therapy ~ IMRT Completed 8/07
Adjuvant Hormone Therapy ~ 28 months on Casodex and Lupron.

Status:
"I beat up this disease and took its lunch money! I am in remission."
I am currently not being treated, but I do have regular oncology visits.
I am the president of an UsTOO chapter in Las Vegas

Blog : www.caringbridge.org/visit/tonycrispino
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