Welcome to forum. Sorry you are here. As you've already discovered, there is a wealth of experience and empathy here. The PCa "brotherhood" as been helpful to me, and I'm sure you will benefit as well.
Last Fall I went through the same decision process that you're experiencing. I am a bit older than you, but still young enough to have chosen da Vinci over radiation because I wanted to keep my options
open. My father was treated with radiation at age 75. We all have the same disease, but seem to recover differently from treatment. There is no perfect solution for PCa.
Anyway, to the point. Having a supportive wife is a blessing. You'll likely find that going through this together will strengthen your marriage. I understand you feeling like you are letting her down. I had the same feelings. Our wives are more realistic. Love goes far beyond this ugly affliction.
Hang in there.
Age 61, Diagnosed July 2010
PSA 04/09 - 2.5; 05/10 - 3.7; 07/10 - 4.7
DRE and Ultrasound - Negative
Size at biopsy - 32 grams
T1C, 3+3=6, 1 core of 12 60% positive
da Vinci nerve sparing RP 10/29/10
Post op biopsy indicated bilateral Gleason 6 tumors
Continent 90% and hopeful
Minor ED - 85% naturally, 95% with Cialis
6 week PSA - "undetectable"
Post Edited (Pocketman) : 1/15/2011 8:25:48 PM (GMT-7)