I had my surgery 10 years ago just after our 25th anniversary. Based on where prostrate cancer was, I knew normal love making wouldn't be in the cards and so did my wife.
She said something before the surgery and many many times since, the alternate to the doing something and not doing anything wasn't an option.
My uncles all had it 3 died of PC - one at 54, 58 & 62. They found mine at 50 - 2+3 = 5 with 40% PSA went from 5.2 to 6.8 in 4 months
I tried various option for ED from pharm to shots and not use the pump and rings. Our love live isn't as crazy as it was before but still good.
I am having the AUS AMS 800 installed on Friday 1/21/2011 at Cleveland Clinic to fix the plumbing leaks and she will be with me for that.
If anything our marriage is stronger.
Wigged, don't rush into anything but make certain you have a GOOD urologist who knows his limitations as well as you. If you feel uncomfortable, find another.
My Urologist, which I have now, used to install the AMS 800 but didn't do enough of them to feel comfortable so he sent me to Cleveland Clinic where a Dr Montague will be doing it.
Good Luck and Talk with your wife.