Susan, you might want to ask beforehand or even not do any shaving before surgery. Some hospitals will not do surgery if the patient is fresh-shaved by themselves or family members. Just a watch-out, as at least 2 here reported having their surgery cancelled because they had shaved themselves. It's a germ thing, I think.
As to church, if you truly don't want any company, just tell them that you would rather not have visitors with you, as you are not that comfortable dealing with others during trying times, such as your husbands surgery. I am sure they will understand. I do quite a lot of surgery visiting and sitting, and usually it's just to provide a physical presence to our friend, rather than a time to chat and visit. If something should go wrong or there be a need for something, it helps to have someone there with the waiting family member. Just a thought.
James C. Age 63
Gonna Make Myself A Better Man tinyurl.com/28e8qcg
4/07: PSA 7.6, 7/07 Biopsy: 3 of 16 PCa, 5% involved, left lobe, GS6
9/07: Nerve Sparing
open RP, Path: pT2c, 110 gms., clear except:
Probable microscopic involvement-left apical margin -GS6
3 Years: PSA's .04 each test until 04/10-.06, 09/10-.09, 01/11-.09