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Susan R
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   Posted 2/2/2011 11:00 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi all, just needing something to do as I wait for news about Michaels surgery... It was suppose to start at 10:45, but the Dr using the Da Vinci first today, is running late.  They said it will be about a 30-45 minute turn around on the room, once he is done, but we dont know how long it will take for him to finish.  So, I cant be with Michael while he waits and I am here in the waiting room....thank God for wi-fi and small portable computers.  So, I thought I would check into the message board.
Ideas on how to entertain myself while I wait (be clean gentleman!!!)   nono   I know the surgery will take at minimum an hour or so, but other than going to pray at the chapel, I dont want to leave.
Thanks for letting me share while I am anxious and scared.

Steve n Dallas
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   Posted 2/2/2011 11:09 AM (GMT -6)   

I eat or sleep when I'm stressed turn

Good luck and tell hubby we'll see him on the other side.


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   Posted 2/2/2011 11:40 AM (GMT -6)   
All the best to your husband, Susan.  My wife waited patiently for 5 and a half hours.  Relax and things will turn out great.  You don't want to rush this one.
Age 59 at Diagnosis
01/08 PSA 4.17 DRE showed node
03/08 RP - Nerve Sparing, margins clear, no invasion
Continent 3 weeks post surgery / ED
06/08 until 08/09 PSA 0.01
08/09 PSA .14
09/09 RT / 36 treatments
01/10 PSA .13
08/11/10 PSA 3.44
30/11/10 Zoladex ADT

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   Posted 2/2/2011 11:49 AM (GMT -6)   
Is there a fish tank nearby? You might have to consider listening to music to sooth your soul off the internet or such! Hey, I don't know...don't envy the waiting games for anybody. Before you know it you will be posting, like the cable guy...get-r-done...got-r-done.
Should be routine in hindsight if that helps.

Post Edited (zufus) : 2/2/2011 10:58:00 AM (GMT-7)

James C.
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   Posted 2/2/2011 11:54 AM (GMT -6)   
Since you have access and time, maybe you want to review this thread, in case you feel you might have missed something. tongue


Seriously, time drags, I know, but it will be over soon. Relax, surf, meditate, and wait...Good luck and we'll see ya both on the other side.
James C. Age 63
Gonna Make Myself A Better Man tinyurl.com/28e8qcg
4/07: PSA 7.6, 7/07 Biopsy: 3 of 16 PCa, 5% involved, left lobe, GS6
9/07: Nerve Sparing open RP, Path: pT2c, 110 gms., clear except:
Probable microscopic involvement-left apical margin -GS6
3 Years: PSA's .04 each test until 04/10-.06, 09/10-.09, 01/11-.09
ED-total-Bimix 30cc

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   Posted 2/2/2011 12:08 PM (GMT -6)   
Susan, the main part of the surgery with the robot will take an hour, but with the prep, getting the instruments in place, and then the closure and recovery, you should expect several hours before you see him.

Rest assured that these are very successful surgeries. With Joe's 3+3 clinical Gleason score, the procedure should go absolutely without a hitch. In a couple days, you'll get the surgical pathology report after they dice-up his prostate in the lab, and the Gleason may or may not go up a little, but that's fairly common and very likely won't change a thing.

best wishes...

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   Posted 2/2/2011 12:11 PM (GMT -6)   
Susan, that's a hard kind of waiting, I know. Least you can be online and there's always something to do there. My family waited almost 7 hours, start to recovery room, when I had my open surgery. To me, it was literally the blink of an eye, to them, I can only imagine the thoughts and worries going through their minds.

Good luck, and will be glad to hear when your hubby is safely on the other side in recovery.

David in SC
Age: 58, 56 dx, PSA: 7/07 5.8, 10/08 16.3
3rd Biopsy: 9/08 7 of 7 Positive, 40-90%, Gleason 4+3
open RP: 11/08, on catheters for 101 days
Path Rpt: Gleason 3+4, pT2c, 42g, 20% cancer, 1 pos marg
Incont & ED: None
Post Surgery PSA: 2/09 .05,5/09 .1, 6/09 .11. 8/09 .16
Post SRT PSA: 1/10 .12, 4/8 .04, 8/6 .06 11/10 Not taking it
Latest: 6 Corr Surgeries to Bladder Neck, SP Catheter since 10/1/9, SRT 39 Sess/72 gy ended 11/09, 21 Catheters, Ileal Conduit Surgery 9/23/10

Susan R
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   Posted 2/2/2011 12:15 PM (GMT -6)   
All great ideas, thanks. Still havent started, why dont they allow you to wait with your loved one while they wait their turn instead of having us seperated? I am sure there is some sterile zone or some other crap. I know I have to wait during surgery, but to make us wait seperated while we wait.....Craziness!!!

James C.
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   Posted 2/2/2011 12:18 PM (GMT -6)   
If he has been moved to the staging area outside the surgical suites, then he's beyond the point where outsiders in any form is allowed. Sorry... confused
James C. Age 63
Gonna Make Myself A Better Man tinyurl.com/28e8qcg
4/07: PSA 7.6, 7/07 Biopsy: 3 of 16 PCa, 5% involved, left lobe, GS6
9/07: Nerve Sparing open RP, Path: pT2c, 110 gms., clear except:
Probable microscopic involvement-left apical margin -GS6
3 Years: PSA's .04 each test until 04/10-.06, 09/10-.09, 01/11-.09
ED-total-Bimix 30cc

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   Posted 2/2/2011 12:33 PM (GMT -6)   
My wife had to wait an hour longer than she expected.  Nothing was wrong, the doc was just fixing a few things he found that weren't anticipated (bowel adhesions that he decided to repair before closing).  I know waiting is hard, but you want them to take their time and work carefully.  These things go at their own pace.  Be patient.  It will all turn out well.

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   Posted 2/2/2011 12:52 PM (GMT -6)   
I am a waiting room pacer.  I walked corridors in the hospital outside the designated family room, made tea with the Keurig, fitfully read a book, and used the chapel.  It's a tough time for the wives, no way around it.  Hang in there.  You'll be by his side in a short time.  Give him hugs from his HW family...

English Alf
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   Posted 2/2/2011 1:16 PM (GMT -6)   
As I posted elsewhere today I was lucky to have my op in August so the fine weather meant my wife did not have to wait in the waiting room but could take her cell phone a book and lunch into the woods and find pice courtesy of Mother Nature.

Otherwise, personally I found the easiest way to shut out stress was stick on headphones and crank up my MP3 player. Good hearty classical music as well rather than pop so that each pice lasts 15 or 20 minutes minimum rather than just 3 minutes as that is enough to get the brain distracted.


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   Posted 2/2/2011 1:32 PM (GMT -6)   
The time will pass sooner than you think....
- with my RP surgery, we got to the hospital at 6:30am -I was scheduled for 8:00am- I went off to the change area for surgery
- my partner went home to wait there
- the surgeon was late - I was sitting outside the operating room while the doc ran by...
- had the surgery -2-1/2 hour -and in recovery room 1/2 hour
- back to my room and lucid by 11:00am
- did the post-op orientation with nurse - got set up with walking catheter bag
- was walking and went to the nurses' station and called home to tell my partner I was able to have visitors...
-he was freaked out to hear my voice at 11-45am !!

- time flies when you're having fun -

-wishing you and Michael all the best in his recovery.


Post Edited (tatt2man) : 2/2/2011 11:38:14 AM (GMT-7)

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   Posted 2/2/2011 1:45 PM (GMT -6)   
and, to put another parameter around "normal" I spent 5 hours (pre-op, then operation, then post-op) before I was put in the room where my wife could visit.  Hats off to Tatt2Man for actually walking and talking lucidly so quickly, but it was the next day before I really felt like talking much and the first walk was 8:00 a.m. or so the day after surgery.  All within normal. 

Age at Dx: 56
DaVinci Prostatectomy: 10/28/09

Stage: T2C

Gleason - 3+4 = 7

Prosate: 52 grams

Incontinence - absolutely at first, better with time and kegels

ED - Indeed

Married, father of two (boys 19 and 18)

11 months later: member of the "zero" club, working on one "safety" pad for 24 hours. Took Cialis for 6 months (no apparent affect), Tri-mix works, though!

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   Posted 2/2/2011 1:49 PM (GMT -6)   
Prayers coming your way today. When MrGFM had surgery, I had 3 different friends come and spend about an hour and a half with me each. It helped pass the time, but I think I recall that you preferred to be alone. I guess computer solitaire and/or listening to music would be my next choice.

Maybe you could do some online research for a nice summer vacation. It's fun to dream and have something to look forward to.
Mr GFM's statistics:
Age 50 at diagnosis
PSA History: 10-05 1.3, 01-07 2.09
8-07 - PSA at Biopsy: 2.26
2 of 12 positive
Gleason Score 3+3 6
11-07 - Robotic surgery hospitalized overnight.
Path Report:
Prostatic adenocardinoma, Gleasons 3+3+6, moderately differentiated
Percent of Prostate involved by tumor 5%
Staging pT2c pNx pMx
Margins free of tumor - no further invasion or extension
Catheter out in about 9 days. No incontinence.
Back to work in 2 weeks
ED - resolved. No meds needed at this time.
Post Op PSA: 03-08 0.01, 10-08 0.02, 7-09 0.04, 1-10 0.04, 7-10 0.04

Susan R
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   Posted 2/2/2011 2:02 PM (GMT -6)   
At 1:30 the OR nurse called and said "we have him back here and all is well we will call you back when we are done!" WOO-HOO it finally started, almost 3 hours late, but WOO-HOO!!!nd h

Thanks for the input, I put on a movie, got several calls from my Church, I guess they were ok with the letter I wrote asking them not to come, and have been checking this forum. Music listening, is next, I think!

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   Posted 2/2/2011 2:05 PM (GMT -6)   
This is probably the worst part of the whole deal..It's funny how hospitals thousands of miles apart do things exactly the same way...Usually, a nurse comes out every half hour or so and keeps people in the waiting-room informed as to what's going on..

You will be home before you know it, the whole thing done with..

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   Posted 2/2/2011 4:57 PM (GMT -6)   
Hey, when I asked my wife how she spent her time in the waiting room she said that she was checking out dating websites just in case things turned out badly. Can you see why I love this woman?

Susan R
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   Posted 2/2/2011 5:06 PM (GMT -6)   
Tell her thanks for the laugh. The people in the waiting room with me think I am crazy laughing like that, or course they dont have any idea of what is so funny! Thanks!!

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   Posted 2/2/2011 6:45 PM (GMT -6)   
Now just help hubby recover. Remember, walking is important.
The next hurdle will be the pathology report in about a week. It should go well.

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   Posted 2/2/2011 7:57 PM (GMT -6)   

I read elsewhere that you're "done", congratulations!

As for me, I've waited for my wife in surgery many times, so turnabout is fair, I guess. Sometimes I would go get something to eat, though I wound up missing the doctor, who finished early that time. Another time the doctor met me in the waiting room, talked, then looked at me and said "You should go get something to eat". So for me, surgery is always associated with eating.

Diagnosis at 53. PSA 2007 about 2; 2008 4.3
Biopsy Sept 2008: 6 of 12 cores pos; Gleason 4+3 = 7
CT & Bone scan neg
Da Vinci at City of Hope Dec 8, 2008
Rad prostatectomy & lymph node dissection
Cath out on 7th day, in on 8th day, out again 14th day after neg cystogram
Path: pT2c; lymph nodes neg; margins involv; 41 grams,
PSA 1/08, 4/09,7/09, 10/09, 11/09,2/10 <0.01, 10/10 0.1
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