Ever have your PC hang up, run slow, and screw up programs? -(Yeah, I know - If I had a Mac it wouldn't happen.) Anyway, how do you fix it? You Ctrl+Alt+Del and reboot. You lose the program and data you're running. Maybe you do a defrag or run a virus scan. But, after all the screwing around, eventually your computer is back to where it was. In fact, your PC runs better and faster because some of the resident junk in memory is gone.
Well, PCa handed you an automatic Cntl+Alt+Del. You have just been given the opportunity to run the virus scans, defrags, reboots, without the need to run programs. Nobody needs to know you're padding the pee'er or poking the poker. Now you can recover and build up your body without the baggage of having to be "presentable" or date or perform when you really don't feel like it. Focus on your body and your career instead of a XX chromosome holder. As you will see, there is plenty of data to back this up. Eat right, exercise, don't turn to alcohol or drugs and don't give up.
In the book Freakonomics, Nobel prize winning economist Steven D. Levitt & Stephen J. Dubner, used massive databases to determine what women really want in a man. They looked at something like ~90 million dates from services like Match . com, yahoo, hotmail, cupid, etc,. These sites have people describe themselves: age, race, height, weight, income, education, interests, etc. They also record what kind of partner the person wants: "Someone I can talk to"; "someone who makes me laugh", "Someone who likes walks in the park"... Additionally, they looked at whether the match-up was successful by checking if there a follow up date or not. If there two or more dates, the match was considered successful.
What do you think was the strongest correlating characteristic for a woman to consider going back for a second date with a man? Remember this is data from 90 million dates. No matter what the women wrote on their desires and importance list, when Levitt ran the numbers the most significant factor by far - above age, height, education, "makes me laugh", "someone I can talk to", etc. was... Go ahead. Guess... I'll wait... It was the man's income. Period. "Likes walking in the park" was not even a blip on the radar screen. End of story.
Women did not have a lock on 'shallow'. For men, there were two characteristics that were high. The highest? Body weight/shape. Second was income. In fact with 90 million data points, Levitt was able to determine how much additional annual income was worth per pound of extra body weight. I forget the exact number but it was something like a woman had to earn an additional $15,000 per year for a guy to overlook 10 extra pounds. (If anyone has the book or knows the real number please correct me.) Yep. Mind boggling isn't it? (Frankly, I expected it to be cup size.)
Why am I telling you this? Because you're life ain't over - even if you don't have a working wiener. The most important factor is for YOU to be working. And the best way to do that is to get your head on straight, fix the stuff you can fix, keep all your working parts in the best shape possible and don't break what ain't broke. Got it?
If you don't do drugs, are articulate, and have a job, you are already in the top 80% of the available men out there. If you know how to change the oil in a car, can empty a mouse trap, and are willing to clean the rain gutters, you just put yourself in the 90th percentile.
Use this time to get your act together. Start today. It will never be easier.
Good luck to you.
58 Married, 56 DX, PSA 23. G7, DaVinci 7/2009. PT3aNOMx
AdVance sling Jan 10, 2011. Continent!
Total ED. Working on it.
Post Edited (Worried Guy) : 2/12/2011 12:34:27 PM (GMT-7)