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Hunter48152
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   Posted 2/12/2011 7:55 AM (GMT -6)   
Well 14 months post op and so far things are looking good for being cancer free. But, due to the surgery and radiation my drive and erections are still not there. My fiance isn't able to cope with the situation and has decided to move out for awhile to "think". I have been using Injections and occasionally Cialis, but they are both hit and miss. At 46 I am too old to be starting over again, much less find someone who can understand my situation. Due to PC I feel like I have been cut down in the prime of my life and everything that I love and care about has been taken away from me because of it. Sorry, I just need to vent and I know I can do that here. Thanks for listening.
Age: 45
Diagnosed: 9/09 PSA: 5.3
Ultra sound showed lump on left side
Biopsy: 5 of 12 Pos. Gleason: 6
Da Vinci Nerve sparring done: 12/16/09
PSA 1 month after surgery: 0.0
PSA as of 4/28/2010 after 37 Rad treatments Undetectable
Path. Report: Tumor at the margins but had not gone through capsule
Start Low Dose Rad. March 2010 as a precaution
Ended rad Treatments 4/28/2010

natural44
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   Posted 2/12/2011 8:33 AM (GMT -6)   
You are not alone Hunter, I am 45 4 months post RRP not gotten to injections yet, but nothin g else working well enough for sex. The cancer is gone like you caught it early and very thankful of that...But, My wife is less than understanding, she says its ok with her if I have ED and she didnt marry me for my sexual attention, but its not been the same between us since we can not be intiment like we used to. I am coping with this as best as I can in just being thankfull that God saved me from the cancer and everything else is small stuff in comparison. BUT...its not easy! not for any of us.

Keep up the faith! hang in there Hunter!
age 44 when diagnosed 45 now
RRP 9-28-10
gleason 3+3=6
pathology report all clear
11-1-10 PSA 0.02
3 month PSA 0.00
bladder control 3 weeks post cath.
Osbon pump works great!
some noctural erections stated 12-01-10, but not very strong ones.
5mg Cialis daily 1-3-11 able to get short semi erections(60-70%) with effort daily
Dr. R. Saint in Tulsa did my procedure, I do NOT recomend him!!

Hunter48152
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   Posted 2/12/2011 8:36 AM (GMT -6)   
Thanks for the kind words Natural
Age: 45
Diagnosed: 9/09 PSA: 5.3
Ultra sound showed lump on left side
Biopsy: 5 of 12 Pos. Gleason: 6
Da Vinci Nerve sparring done: 12/16/09
PSA 1 month after surgery: 0.0
PSA as of 4/28/2010 after 37 Rad treatments Undetectable
Path. Report: Tumor at the margins but had not gone through capsule
Start Low Dose Rad. March 2010 as a precaution
Ended rad Treatments 4/28/2010

zufus
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   Posted 2/12/2011 8:41 AM (GMT -6)   
Hunter are you a Michigan guy with that zip code? All I can say is yeah life can be unfair it seems and at your age or really any age a huge adjustment. There are other women out there that might enjoy a real relationship of cuddling, caring and love (not as an action verb or act, which really doesn't last long enough anyway). Kind of like getting a new puppy, a new spark with the right type might be all you need. But hey I am no therapist and not even a dear gabby type, just an understanding PCa guy. Maybe get a dog too, unconditional love 24/7....not fickled either. Atleast you'll get some tongue on your face (LOL). I love dogs and even have a video called the Howlers on youtube, we have like a 3 part harmony...of course you might not want to go to that level of Defcon 5 (LOL).

Best to you, Bronson and others can offer some encouraging words for you too.

zufus- 48350 is the zip
Dx-2002 total urinary blockage, bPsa 46.6 12/12 biopsies all loaded 75-95% vol.; Gleasons scores 7,8,9's (2-sets), gland size 35, ct and bone scans look clear- ADT3 5 months prior to radiations neutron/photon 2-machines, cont'd. ADT3, quit after 2 yrs. switched to DES 1-mg, off 1+ yr., controlled well, resumed, used intermittently, resumed useage

60Michael
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   Posted 2/12/2011 8:59 AM (GMT -6)   
Hunter, Guess that I am somewhat lucky as I am nearing 63yo so my best days are likely behind me, but what great stories I have to tell my friends. But more importantly I am married to someone who truly loves me so we improvise with our love making.
 
My guess if your fiancee' needs time to think it is either due to your depression or perhaps she just wasnt the one for you. As for me I am going to hang on to hope that my ED will improve as all my side effects from surgery and SRT fall by the wayside. If not there are a lot of things that I want to do before I leave this earth, including being a better father and grandfather. Hang in there and if you are depressed, speak to your Dr.
Michael

Post Edited (60Michael) : 2/13/2011 7:46:16 AM (GMT-7)


Hunter48152
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   Posted 2/12/2011 9:02 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi Zufus.. Yeah I am a Mi Guy. Live in St. Clair Shores (48080) now... Well with my work schedule a dog is out of the question LOL And besides would really like some tongue that I can kiss back LOL
Age: 45
Diagnosed: 9/09 PSA: 5.3
Ultra sound showed lump on left side
Biopsy: 5 of 12 Pos. Gleason: 6
Da Vinci Nerve sparring done: 12/16/09
PSA 1 month after surgery: 0.0
PSA as of 4/28/2010 after 37 Rad treatments Undetectable
Path. Report: Tumor at the margins but had not gone through capsule
Start Low Dose Rad. March 2010 as a precaution
Ended rad Treatments 4/28/2010

zufus
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   Posted 2/12/2011 10:00 AM (GMT -6)   
I see your humor is intact, that has a good prognosis all by itself. Yeah I think you are right about the tongue issue, although there are some strange people out there. It isn't the same with cats or ferrets...although they have personalities and can get you to laugh at times and are low maintenance, cute suckers too.

You will have to inform others how you can make the best of lemons in this situation, there must be a way to make lemonade??? I have made some lemonade from lemons in this battle, but it has been a major squeeze from all angles. Thank God for my sick humor and dogs and patient wife, maybe not in that order, especially if she reads one of these threads.

With my stats, living awhile trumps the woodies, stiffies but not by all that much (LOL). I learned a new appreciation for the good ol days and Deja Vu...good thing I have half my memory left after 2 yrs. of ADT3 chemical warfare. That also takes the wood out of woodies and even goes against the grain and might cause splintering or Balsa wood or drift wood effect, you are near the Lake so you would understand. Also, 'in your dreams' take on a huge significance and if it's in color all the better. I predict via Kreskin you will find a gal that can deal with you, and more than just the wood, maybe the gal you have will find this out the 'hard' way (pun intended I guess???) Sex is over rated....well in theory anyway.
Dx-2002 total urinary blockage, bPsa 46.6 12/12 biopsies all loaded 75-95% vol.; Gleasons scores 7,8,9's (2-sets), gland size 35, ct and bone scans look clear- ADT3 5 months prior to radiations neutron/photon 2-machines, cont'd. ADT3, quit after 2 yrs. switched to DES 1-mg, off 1+ yr., controlled well, resumed, used intermittently, resumed useage

Skate
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   Posted 2/12/2011 10:23 AM (GMT -6)   

Michael said:

At 46 I am too old to be starting over again, much less find someone who can understand my situation.

Michael, like a previous post, I am also approaching 63 and after PC surgery, radiation therapy and now hormone therapy, I feel that every day is starting over so you will never be too old. Your girl does need some time to think, as do you.  Remember the saying that "if you open the cage and a bird fies away and never returns, the bird was never yours to begin with.  If the bird returns,  then she is yours forever." 

Sounds hokey doesn't it,  but you really need to look at how lucky you are right now.  You are only 14 months out of surgery and and sometimes healing can take up to two years or more.  Give it time.  Are you exercising?  If not,  the fastest way to recovery is a strict exercise program.  By strict I mean regularly.  Get the heart pumping and the muscles activated.  Good for the body but even better for the mind!

Skate.


Age 59 at Diagnosis
01/08 PSA 4.17 DRE showed node
03/08 RP - Nerve Sparing, margins clear, no invasion
Continent 3 weeks post surgery / ED
06/08 until 08/09 PSA 0.01
08/09 PSA .14
09/09 RT / 36 treatments
01/10 PSA .13
08/11/10 PSA 3.44
30/11/10 Zoladex ADT

livinadream
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   Posted 2/12/2011 10:30 AM (GMT -6)   
Good morning Hunter and thanks for sharing this story. One thing I can say with absolute certainty is that prostate cancer changes our lives dramatically. I do believe that in time to come that it will be a positive change. Right now dealing with cancer, ED, and loss of a relationship is overwhelming and my heart goes out to you.
Please know I care as do many others here on HW. I am going to ask you to email me away from the forum so we can chat.

peace and joy
Dale

Skate
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   Posted 2/12/2011 10:34 AM (GMT -6)   

Sorry Hunter, I called you Michael in my last post.

Sk


Jerry L.
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   Posted 2/12/2011 10:48 AM (GMT -6)   
Hunter,

This is the place to vent...you mentioned being " cut down in the prime of my life"...There are a fair number of guys on this site that are around your age so we can relate.

Time will deal with many of your feelings/issues. My urologist said that incontinence would take up to a year and that ED could take up to 2 years...so I would even give that some time...

Looks like great news on the cancer front...and congats...and trust me...that is the big thing here...sounds crazy, but all these other things are side shows....

Hang in there,
Jerry L.
Nov. 2009 Dx at Age 44
Dec. 2009 DaVinci Robotic Surgery
Jan. 2010 T3b, Gleason 9
Feb. 2010 Adjuvant Radiation

PSA History:
-----------------
Nov. 2009 4.30
Feb. 2010 <.05
May 2010 <.05
Aug. 2010 <.05
Nov. 2010 <.05

pattersson
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   Posted 2/12/2011 11:10 AM (GMT -6)   
Just as a general comment: I think midlife sucks big time. Cannot understand where these older blokes find all that positive energy...
Radical prostactemy 10/2006 @42, PSA 3.9, Gleason 3+4
PSA <0.2 2006-2009

PSA 0.14 01/2010
0.07 05/2010
0.06 10/2010

English Alf
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   Posted 2/12/2011 11:11 AM (GMT -6)   
Hunter
Take care of you mind as well as you body. PCa and the treatment thereof can bring about real mental issues and a good uro or RT team know all about this, so if you tell a doc that you really don't feel happy with your situation they should be able to help.
I'm sorry the situation with your fiancée is not ideal. I have a great and very understanding wife, and, yes we are not intimate the way we used to be, even though I can get erections, but we have as much fun, pleasure enjoyment etc by trying to find alternative ways to be intimate.
Perhaps one of the wives/partners will ahev a few more useful suggestions.

Alf
Born Jun ‘60
Apr 09 PSA 8.6
DRE neg
Biop 2 of 12 pos
Gleason 3+3
29 Jul 09 DaVinci AVL-NKI Amsterdam
6 Aug 09 Cath out
PostOp Gleason 3+4 Bladder neck & Left SVI -T3b
No perin’l No vasc invasion Clear margins
Dry at night
21 Sep 09 No pads daytime
17 Nov 09 PSA 0.1
17 Mar 10 PSA 0.4 sent to RT
13 Apr CT
66Gy 28 Apr to 11 Jun 10
Tired + weird BMs
14 Sep 10 PSA <0.1
12 Jan 11 PSA <0.1
Erection OK

fertree
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   Posted 2/12/2011 11:11 AM (GMT -6)   
Hunter, I take issue with the "at 46 I'm too old to start over" line of thought. I divorced my first wife at age 30, and didn't meet my current wife until a couple of days before my 47th birthday. You're not even close to being too old to start over. And if Miss I'll Think it Over gets inkling that you're thinking things over as well, hmmm, that might give her something to think about as well. Good luck!

Jerry L.
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   Posted 2/12/2011 11:24 AM (GMT -6)   
Pattersson,

I had to look up the word, Bloke.

I think for some of us, we were forced to zoom by midlife --- in our forties...
Nov. 2009 Dx at Age 44
Dec. 2009 DaVinci Robotic Surgery
Jan. 2010 T3b, Gleason 9
Feb. 2010 Adjuvant Radiation

PSA History:
-----------------
Nov. 2009 4.30
Feb. 2010 <.05
May 2010 <.05
Aug. 2010 <.05
Nov. 2010 <.05

MarkMyWords
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Total Posts : 55
   Posted 2/12/2011 11:55 AM (GMT -6)   
Hunter -

There are quite a few of us 40 something guys here going through the same issues. It is a challenge to say the least. In my case, I have still been so focused on cancer treatment that the ED issue hasn't really pushed it's way to the forefront yet. It does get a little depressing to see the soldier just laying there instead of standing at attention. I do have a caring partner that has been patient and understanding as we both try to figure this situation out and "get our groove back." We both understand that things will never be the same and know that we will have to adjust to the change.

I am with you 100% - it can be depressing as hell and focusing on the positives becomes a challenge. The thing I have found the most beneficial - talking to others that are in the same boat. I am fortunate enough (or unfortunate enough) to know 2 friends that are going through the same process. When I feel like crap and want to put my fist through the wall - I call and talk to them. They can relate and understand. Same with the great group of guys on here - sometimes venting and emotional outbursts help.

Best of luck to you Hunter - keep a stiff upper lip (no pun intended). If you ever feel like venting or need some moral support - hollar.

Mark
Age 45
Jul 2010 - PSA 10.1
Aug 2010 - Biopsy - 12 of 12 cores positive - Gleason 7 (3+4 on the right, 4+3 on the left)
Sept 2010 - CAT and Bone scans negative.
Nov 2010 - da vinci RP with negative margins. nerve bundles were not spared. negative lymph nodes. Pathology Stage pT3c.
Jan 2011 - PSA undetectable

tedgard
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   Posted 2/12/2011 12:10 PM (GMT -6)   

Hunter,

 

After my PC surgery and resulting ED I tried all the options (i.e.: pump, pills, shots...) without satisfying results.  I finally made the choice to get a penile implant and went through with that surgery in March '09.  This was the best choice for me and I have been very satisfied with the results.  I know that there are a some men that simply would be scared to make that choice for themselves, but I am happy I did.

 

If you wish to discuss this further and want any details in regard to what the operations was like or what the results were please feel free to let me know.  I will be happy to discuss it in whatever details you may need.

 

Sincerely,

Ted.


Diagnosis Results – Oct 31, 2007;
•Age – 53 (turned 54 in Nov 2007)
•PSA is 3.83
•Gleason's Grade - 3+3=6, T1C

Surgery Dec 11, 2007;
•Cancer confirmed on Right mid and Left apex
•Both nerve bundles spared, some damage to the Left bundle.
•30 day PSA, .01
•90 day PSA, .00
•Latest PSA, .12
•ED treatments: Levitra, Cialis, Trimix, Erect Aid pump, Penile Implant on 3/12/2009
•Happy

tigre
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   Posted 2/12/2011 12:23 PM (GMT -6)   
hunter,
just a quick response to assure you that you are not alone in this boat. i was dx and had rp in 2009 at 45 yo. i was g6 with one positive margin and also got rt due to rising psa after rp (0.02 to 0.05 in two months). uro says pre and post rp gleason was 6 but upgraded from t1 to t3a due to the margin.  i had two psa's since rt and both were <0.1. last test was earlier this week and ill get results tuesday. at this point as someone so well put it, everything else is a sideshow.
oh, did i mention i am married to an attractive 30yo and obviously can't do the things we used to do. i haven't tried anything for ed yet because frankly the desire hasn't come back yet. i really feel bad for her and would not blame if she had to move on. there is so much more to life though and i'll stop there because last time i posted anything about my way of coping they deleted most of it. i'd be glad to give you e-mail address in interested.  i have held onto my passion for golf and am able to enjoy many of life's pleasures much more than before this journey started though. don't know what made me think i was going to live forever.
anyway, good luck and realize when one door closes others are opened.

Worried Guy
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   Posted 2/12/2011 1:26 PM (GMT -6)   
Hey Hunter,

Ever have your PC hang up, run slow, and screw up programs? -(Yeah, I know - If I had a Mac it wouldn't happen.) Anyway, how do you fix it? You Ctrl+Alt+Del and reboot. You lose the program and data you're running. Maybe you do a defrag or run a virus scan. But, after all the screwing around, eventually your computer is back to where it was. In fact, your PC runs better and faster because some of the resident junk in memory is gone.

Well, PCa handed you an automatic Cntl+Alt+Del. You have just been given the opportunity to run the virus scans, defrags, reboots, without the need to run programs. Nobody needs to know you're padding the pee'er or poking the poker. Now you can recover and build up your body without the baggage of having to be "presentable" or date or perform when you really don't feel like it. Focus on your body and your career instead of a XX chromosome holder. As you will see, there is plenty of data to back this up.
Eat right, exercise, don't turn to alcohol or drugs and don't give up.

In the book Freakonomics, Nobel prize winning economist Steven D. Levitt & Stephen J. Dubner, used massive databases to determine what women really want in a man. They looked at something like ~90 million dates from services like Match . com, yahoo, hotmail, cupid, etc,. These sites have people describe themselves: age, race, height, weight, income, education, interests, etc. They also record what kind of partner the person wants: "Someone I can talk to"; "someone who makes me laugh", "Someone who likes walks in the park"... Additionally, they looked at whether the match-up was successful by checking if there a follow up date or not. If there two or more dates, the match was considered successful.

What do you think was the strongest correlating characteristic for a woman to consider going back for a second date with a man? Remember this is data from 90 million dates. No matter what the women wrote on their desires and importance list, when Levitt ran the numbers the most significant factor by far - above age, height, education, "makes me laugh", "someone I can talk to", etc. was... Go ahead. Guess... I'll wait... It was the man's income. Period. "Likes walking in the park" was not even a blip on the radar screen. End of story.
Women did not have a lock on 'shallow'. For men, there were two characteristics that were high. The highest? Body weight/shape. Second was income. In fact with 90 million data points, Levitt was able to determine how much additional annual income was worth per pound of extra body weight. I forget the exact number but it was something like a woman had to earn an additional $15,000 per year for a guy to overlook 10 extra pounds. (If anyone has the book or knows the real number please correct me.) Yep. Mind boggling isn't it? (Frankly, I expected it to be cup size.)

Why am I telling you this? Because you're life ain't over - even if you don't have a working wiener. The most important factor is for YOU to be working. And the best way to do that is to get your head on straight, fix the stuff you can fix, keep all your working parts in the best shape possible and don't break what ain't broke. Got it?

If you don't do drugs, are articulate, and have a job, you are already in the top 80% of the available men out there. If you know how to change the oil in a car, can empty a mouse trap, and are willing to clean the rain gutters, you just put yourself in the 90th percentile.

Use this time to get your act together. Start today. It will never be easier.
Good luck to you.

Jeff

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58 Married, 56 DX, PSA 23. G7, DaVinci 7/2009. PT3aNOMx
AdVance sling Jan 10, 2011. Continent!
Total ED. Working on it.

Post Edited (Worried Guy) : 2/12/2011 12:34:27 PM (GMT-7)


Zen9
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   Posted 2/12/2011 1:40 PM (GMT -6)   
Worried Guy,

That is interesting - although not much consolation for those of us who lost both wives and careers due to PC!

Zen9

tatt2man
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   Posted 2/12/2011 1:44 PM (GMT -6)   
Hunter - one of the hardest things to get used to (and cope with) after treatment for PCa is mr. happy ain't what he used to be...
- some are affected more than others, while some sail through ED as if it was just the name of that talking horse from the 1960's.

-as brother site of HW - franktalk.org/Enter.php?redirect=/index.php might be of benefit for information as well...

-there is a wide range of forms of intimacy that can compliment and( in certain situations) replace penetration as the source for climax

- depression can take over your world, just like how PCa has invaded the world and changes the lives of many men and those who love them...

-if you feel there is still hope with your fiance' ... maybe try experimenting with dating again -and rediscovering if the candle is still lit, and with that, compassion and passion may follow...

-hugs to you for your fight,
BRONSON
Age: 55 - gay with spouse of 14 years, Steve
location: Peterborough, Ontario, Canada
PSA: 10/06/09 - 3.86
Biopsy: 10/16/09- 6 of 12 cancerous samples, Gleason 7 (4+3)
Radical Prostatectomy: 11/18/09
Pathology: pT3a -Gleason 7 -extraprostatic extension -perineural invasion -prostate weight -34.1 gm
PSA: 04/08/10 -0.05 -Zero Club
PSA: 09/23/10 -0.05 -Zero Club
PSA: 03/24/11 - TBA

Worried Guy
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   Posted 2/12/2011 1:54 PM (GMT -6)   
Hey Zen,

I'll bet even with no career, if you keep what you have in the best possible shape, and avoid the self destructive habits, you are still in the top 60%.
It would be interesting to see what happens if you post an ad on Craig's list stating "knows how to change oil, empty mouse traps and cleans rain gutters" I'll bet you'd get plenty of responses. You'd be considered a stud muffin in the 65+ crowd.
My dad still had a night driver's license at 80. He had to beat the women away with a stick.

Jeff

Post Edited (Worried Guy) : 2/12/2011 12:57:53 PM (GMT-7)


wigged-out
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   Posted 2/12/2011 3:04 PM (GMT -6)   
Hunter,

Sorry to hear that you are blue. My first bit of advice would be to seek out some professiOnal counseling.

45? Why you're still just a kid! I'm 55 and still have Theo mind of a helliOn 25 year old.

Start a new hobby or pick uP an old one.

As much as I talk uP a big macho game, sex is a part of life, but not all of it.

Since my diagnosis, I've found a new calling to make a difference in some nOn-selfish way. Make your own waves.

As far as the fiancé goes, I think that you are lucky by finding out early that the "in sickness and health" part Of the wedding vows wouldn't apply to this person.

You can and will do better than this. I'd tell her to keep on thinking....about being self centered.

You sound like a reasonable person, but do cOnsider chatting with someone sooner than later.

Wishing you the best.

W-O
Age: 55- good health. Exercise regularly.
DRE 11/08- no lumps, just enlarged prostate
PSA checked regularly, last 6.6/
Needle Biopsy 11/09- 12 samples. 11 OK. Right Lateral Mid- Adenocarcinoma Gleason score 3+3=6 9 involving 5% of specimen.
PSA risingto 8.0 thru 2010.
2nd biopsy- 2 positive cores, one a 3+3=6, 3% and the other a 3+4=7, 20%
Very last PSA- 12
DaVinci scheduled 2/14/2011

Susan R
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   Posted 2/12/2011 7:23 PM (GMT -6)   
A womans point of view. I can only speak to what I know and how I feel. There are always women who place importance on different issues than I. We are fairly new to this prostate cancer and its side effects, but I will tell you my thoughts on it and intimacy. As I have been told by several men "men are taught that their penis is all important from the time they are little boys" (quote from my physical medicine Dr) For women, the penis is great but is not EVERYTHING. There are so many different ways to achieve intimacy with your partner than through the penis. But I think the important thing is the openness, the willingness to share (physically or emotionally) taking the time to make your partner feel wanted and loved. Sex/intimacy after prostate cancer has to be different, no way around it. But it doesnt have to be bad, it just means you get to re-explore each other.

As for 46 years old and being too old. That is not true. I have several single girlfriends in their 40's who would be more than happy to be involved with a man who experiences sex differently. Especially if those men were open, expressive, had a sense of humor. Sex, which seems so important is actually just a part of your life, it is not your whole life.

Prostate cancer is absolutely a couples disease. It happens to the man, but it effects both parties. I too would suggest finding someone that you can talk to, a support group, go to counseling as a couple. You are TOO YOUNG to give up on yourself and the possibility of love and intimacy.

Skate
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   Posted 2/12/2011 7:38 PM (GMT -6)   

Susan:

I have followed your threads and let me say that Michael, your husband, is an extremely lucky guy. Your compassion leaves me with a touch of envy for him and what he has in you. Your advice for Hunter is truly from the heart.

Skate

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