Cyclingboy: I could have some weekend fun messing with your head, but I am by nature a kind and gentle person. (I would have insisted in my reply that you were in for a very, very long haul because after all, misery loves company) However seriously, at this point you really don't have any idea (none of us do) as to how long your incontinence will last. It might be a long road or a short one.
First order of business: slow down, breath and relax for a moment. I was in the same soggy shoes you were in 8 days from catheter removal. Every newbie on incontinence issue, foremost wants to know when will this nightmare be over? The short answer is, it is over when it is over. Time is your friend and enemy right now. Time is needed for your body to heal. Despite feeling ready to do stuff, the inside of you has been mangled, rearranged and reworked to give you the big yellow stream you paid so much money to your doctor to deliver to you. You have age on your side as far as healing and speedy recovery are concerned. Read the other posts on this issue. They all repeat the same mantra. It takes time to heal and the pelvic floor exercises help to recover sooner. The important thing to latch on right now is that healing internally is something you cannot control. You can control the number of Kegel exercises you perform. You can watch your diet. Control your exercise, sleep and other habits. But despite all this you cannot will healing to speed up. It will come when it is good and ready.
Find some humor in whatever situation befalls you. Some guys think it is funny to pee during a staff meeting without everyone else knowing it. Hey, whatever turns you on I guess..... I have done my share of cursing and crying over this and it has not made a bit of difference in shortening my healing time. I don't want to make light of all of this. It is no picnic and you will be frustrated, discouraged and pleased beyond words when you do see some progress. You will feel that it will never come to an end, even if that end is 5 weeks from now.
OK, 20 ml per hour so in a 12 hour day you produce 240 ml. My surgery was on July 20, 2010 and cath out on July 29, 2010. I am sorry, I did not keep pad data until Sept 3, 2010 which was around 1 month plus a few days after catheter removal. Recalling my early progress or lack thereof, I used and still use Depends Guards. I filled about
5 pads almost to the spill over point while awake (roughly 18 hours each day) I recall that a full pad could hold about
210 to 230 ml of urine. Oddly, if you filled a pad quickly it held less. If you filled it slowly, it would spread out and hold more overall. Recall lots of day with pads so full I waddled up the stairs to get to the bathroom to change it and clean up. Fun times...
By early September 2010 I started to keep track of my 13 hour work day and pad volume. I went back to work on August 16, 2010 which was 18 days after cath removal. All standing resulted in draining everything I had in my bladder into the pad. Sitting became the oasis for not leaking. I was lucky to get parking at work for 5 weeks so my serious 1 mile walk to and from my job to the train station for commuting started on Sept 20. Reviewing my pad data, I wore the same pad the entire day by the time I was walking again and my average pad input was around 125 ml each day. Pads were nice and plump and juicy by the end of a long work day.
I am writing way too long. To be brief, my pads input dropped to just over 100 ml in October, down to 43 the first half of November and to 24 during the second half of November. December was consistent at 17 ml per 13 hour work day. January dropped to 13 ml per work day and the first half of February I am at around 10 ml of fluid for a 13 hour work day. By HW standards, I am one of the "special ed students" in the prostatectomy class. Most guys get over this far sooner. However, some of us insist on dragging this out for as long as possible. Believe me it is not for the sympathy. We don't get much of that at home. Only a few of my work colleagues (women only) know about
my special condition. They do convey positive concern that I recover soon.
One note of caution: Your immediate family will grow tired of your pad input reporting on a daily basis. I am only aloud to report my progress if I have something real to announce. Otherwise, the standard speech is, "try being a woman going through having a period on a monthly basis, not knowing when exactly it will arrive and always being caught unprepared when it does. Deal with blood instead and have it seep through your clothing sometime and see how embarrassing that feels." OK, I get it. If I ever had blood all over me I would claim I was stabbed by a crazy man and garner sympathy for the near fatal attack that I thwarted. My only defense against the potential embarrassment has been to wear black pants at ALL times. Despite the safeguard of wearing black. I never had an accident with leaking while at work.
So, keep me posted on your progress. Worried Guy will chime in as well since we are the unofficial pad weighing contingent in this group. Worried Guy is hard core and has the math and engineering skills to prove it. I am happy just to have a 1/2 month average let along complex statistics. It keeps us off the streets and busy. Need more very specific info that would bore this crowd to tears, I will provide a means to contact me for more support. Glad to be of help.
Biopsy: Gleason 3+3=6, PSA 6.6 One core of 12 with 5% T1c
Surgery: July 2010
Pathology Gleason 6, Neg Margins, Neg Lymph, Neg Sem Vesicles
9/15/10 1st post op PSA >0.1 undetectable
3/11/11 PSA - TBD
Incontinence - very slow recovery
Aug -Sept 2010 - 4-5 pads
Oct 2010 3 pads
Nov 2010 2 pads
Dec - Feb 2011 1 pad all day - pad at night for some small urge incontinence leaks
ED: slow recovery
Post Edited (MikeS24) : 2/19/2011 7:35:39 PM (GMT-7)