A funny bladder control/pants story

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MrsGFM
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   Posted 2/21/2011 11:07 AM (GMT -6)   
I was born with kidney/bladder issues. I had corrective surgery as a teen. The older I've become, the less bladder control I have.

For many many years I've done aerobics. It was a scientific chemistry battle to be able to drink water during the day, then jump up and down in aerobics and not leak too much. I used the restroom before class, in the middle of class, and wore a pad, but was still usually wet. Diet Coke was the worst offender for me.

Our aerobic company was asked to give a demonstration at a very very large health fair. We were going to get on the stage and do some aerobic dances to music in front of 500 or so people. Some of us older ladies were asked to perform because we had done this for years (and were good at it) and to show that you didn't have to be 25 years old and a size zero to work out.

The day of the event, I had to borrow the right type of aerobic pants from another student. She NEGLECTED to tell me that they don't stay UP. smhair

Due to my leaky bladder I was wearing a pad. Because we were in "performance" mode we were asked not to wear anything that gave us a panty line. So it was go natural or wear a thong. I chose a thong to help with the pad.

The music starts and we start our routines. The pants start slipping. The only thing that kept me from mooning 500+ people, was the long t-shirt I wore. Most of the gals wore dance tank tops, but I wore a long t-shirt. I dance my way through 3 routines, trying to inconspicuously keep pulling my pants up in the back. Another dancer who was not performing, asked me later - "Why did you keep messing with your "behind" while you were dancing?" I prayed no one else was that observant.

At this time my father was living in assisted living after a stroke. I went to visit him and told him the story. We grew up in a very modest household - I never saw my father in his underwear and he never saw me in mine after about age 7. After I told him the whole pant slipping story he looked at me seriously and said "I'll bet they invite you back next year!"

My dad passed away 5 years ago and this is one of my favorite stories on him. wink

tatt2man
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   Posted 2/21/2011 11:22 AM (GMT -6)   
that is a great story - thanks for sharing -
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BRONSON
Age: 55 - gay with spouse of 14 years, Steve
location: Peterborough, Ontario, Canada
PSA: 10/06/09 - 3.86
Biopsy: 10/16/09- 6 of 12 cancerous samples, Gleason 7 (4+3)
Radical Prostatectomy: 11/18/09
Pathology: pT3a -Gleason 7 -extraprostatic extension -perineural invasion -prostate weight -34.1 gm
PSA: 04/08/10 -0.05 -Zero Club
PSA: 09/23/10 -0.05 -Zero Club
PSA: 03/24/11 - TBA

Purgatory
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   Posted 2/21/2011 2:56 PM (GMT -6)   
Great story - Mrs GFM

When I was going through the incontinence part, which for me, was way less than a month, my wife and her nursing girl friends would laugh when I would complain about pads and about the guys in the group on pads, as she told me that so many women deal with that all their lives, especially after having children, etc. Perhaps we are a bit of cry babies sometimes, lol.

David
Age: 58, 56 dx, PSA: 7/07 5.8, 10/08 16.3
3rd Biopsy: 9/08 7 of 7 Positive, 40-90%, Gleason 4+3
open RP: 11/08, on catheters for 101 days
Path Rpt: Gleason 3+4, pT2c, 42g, 20% cancer, 1 pos marg
Incont & ED: None
Post Surgery PSA: 2/09 .05,5/09 .1, 6/09 .11. 8/09 .16
Post SRT PSA: 1/10 .12, 4/8 .04, 8/6 .06 11/10 Not taking it
Latest: 6 Corr Surgeries to Bladder Neck, SP Catheter since 10/1/9, SRT 39 Sess/72 gy ended 11/09, 21 Catheters, Ileal Conduit Surgery 9/23/10

MrsGFM
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   Posted 2/21/2011 11:14 PM (GMT -6)   
David, your wife is correct. Many females have incontinence problems. During pregnancy, after childbirth, etc. I think we are more accepting of it because so many of us deal with it. Plus anatomically women are much more prone to it.

Until I had bladder surgery at age 12, I had no bladder control, day or night. Unfortunately this was in the late 60's when parents weren't as prone to take their children to see specialists. My family physician told my parents I did it for attention, because I was the youngest. So my home life wasn't real pleasant. School life wasn't real pleasant because kids are cruel. Being a child I didn't understand why this was happening to me, was horribly embarrassed about it and for many years did not have access to products that helped me.

After I had corrective surgery it took a year to gain continence. It wasn't until I was 19, in college and studied anatomy and physiology did I understand NONE of this was my fault.

I truly understand what you guys are going through with incontinence issues. I am very grateful my husband didn't have this problem and I sympathize with all that struggle with it.
Mr GFM's statistics:
Age 50 at diagnosis
PSA History: 10-05 1.3, 01-07 2.09
8-07 - PSA at Biopsy: 2.26
2 of 12 positive
Gleason Score 3+3 6
11-07 - Robotic surgery hospitalized overnight.
Path Report:
Prostatic adenocardinoma, Gleasons 3+3+6, moderately differentiated
Percent of Prostate involved by tumor 5%
Staging pT2c pNx pMx
Margins free of tumor - no further invasion or extension
Catheter out in about 9 days. No incontinence.
Back to work in 2 weeks
ED - resolved. No meds needed at this time.
Post Op PSA: 03-08 0.01, 10-08 0.02, 7-09 0.04, 1-10 0.04, 7-10 0.04

Purgatory
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Date Joined Oct 2008
Total Posts : 25380
   Posted 2/21/2011 11:19 PM (GMT -6)   
Mrs GFM,

That is a terrible story from your youth, and yes, I remember back in the days, there wouldn't have been much understanding about such things. Glad you finally had a corrective surgery to deal with it. When I was on all those caths, my wife would jokingly be jealous, that I didn't have to get up and pee at all, while she is constantly going. She must get up at least 6 times a night or more. In my new world of having a stoma, I am never conscious if I am peeing or not, a weird feeling, but have constant fear in the back of my mind, will my "device" hold for a week. One bad public mishap a few weeks back made me feel even more insecure. Don't laugh, but I haven't worn any color pants but black for over 2 years now.

David
Age: 58, 56 dx, PSA: 7/07 5.8, 10/08 16.3
3rd Biopsy: 9/08 7 of 7 Positive, 40-90%, Gleason 4+3
open RP: 11/08, on catheters for 101 days
Path Rpt: Gleason 3+4, pT2c, 42g, 20% cancer, 1 pos marg
Incont & ED: None
Post Surgery PSA: 2/09 .05,5/09 .1, 6/09 .11. 8/09 .16
Post SRT PSA: 1/10 .12, 4/8 .04, 8/6 .06 11/10 Not taking it
Latest: 6 Corr Surgeries to Bladder Neck, SP Catheter since 10/1/9, SRT 39 Sess/72 gy ended 11/09, 21 Catheters, Ileal Conduit Surgery 9/23/10
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