Benifits Of Dry Orgasms

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Bob D
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   Posted 2/21/2011 9:27 PM (GMT -6)   
 I have always used a condom when my wife and I had sex prior to my prostate surgery. At times we both would have some irritation afterwards thinking it was just from the "friction" and the things we did prior to putting on the condom after foreplay.  Now post op of course I do not use one when we have intercourse. No more irritation even with "intense" foreplay and intercourse. We realize now that it was perhaps from the latex in the condoms. I know lots of guys just love to feel the force of the ejaculation. But I do not miss it. My orgasms are just as intense and feel great. Besides as I tell my wife I too now can fake orgasms. LOL.
Age 59, psa 4.7 in Jan. 08. Biopsy: one positive sample out of 13. 1% of one sample cancer. Prostate removed on 3/5/08. open Surgery. Northeast Georgia Medical Center, Gainesville Ga. Nerves spared. Cath out 12 days later. Continence good. No pads needed since 6/10/08. First PSA: Less than 0.1 on 6/17/08. First erection five days post op. Update, Oct. 2010. Full natural erections. PSA, <0.1

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   Posted 2/21/2011 10:45 PM (GMT -6)   
Bob,

I agree with your post. Perhaps the first month or so of sex after my RP, it felt weird to "shoot" dry, took a while for my brain to disassociate an orgasm without any ejaculate. But after 2 years plus, I never give it a thought. My orgasms are so much longer in duration and intensity than at any time in my life, and its nice never to have the mess part to deal with. My cowpens gland was left and it is very active when I have sex. There are times, at the moment of no return, that I could almost swear that I let loose as in the old days. I might be in the minority here, but I have no problems or complaints in the sex department.

Good luck to you.

David
Age: 58, 56 dx, PSA: 7/07 5.8, 10/08 16.3
3rd Biopsy: 9/08 7 of 7 Positive, 40-90%, Gleason 4+3
open RP: 11/08, on catheters for 101 days
Path Rpt: Gleason 3+4, pT2c, 42g, 20% cancer, 1 pos marg
Incont & ED: None
Post Surgery PSA: 2/09 .05,5/09 .1, 6/09 .11. 8/09 .16
Post SRT PSA: 1/10 .12, 4/8 .04, 8/6 .06 11/10 Not taking it
Latest: 6 Corr Surgeries to Bladder Neck, SP Catheter since 10/1/9, SRT 39 Sess/72 gy ended 11/09, 21 Catheters, Ileal Conduit Surgery 9/23/10

anxiety out the roof
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   Posted 2/22/2011 2:16 AM (GMT -6)   
CLINTON WOULD HAVE STAYED OUT OF ALOT OF TROUBLE IF HE HAD DRY ORGASIMS. LOL

English Alf
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   Posted 2/22/2011 5:28 AM (GMT -6)   
No Condom, no contraception, no mess (I won't get more explicit!) - yup I suppose there is something on the plus side after all the negatives.
I think a reaction to the latex/rubber in condoms is much more common than people realise. I have experienced it too.

Alf

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   Posted 2/22/2011 6:19 AM (GMT -6)   
I wish I had dry orgasms, spurts of urine erupt every time. It would be interesting to have some idea of how many post op patients experience this on orgasm.
I still remain dry on a day to day basis, as it was suggested that this can be caused by a weak sphincter.
Perhaps a survey could be started to obtain a clearer picture.
 
All the best from England.

brainsurgeon
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   Posted 2/22/2011 6:21 AM (GMT -6)   
Dry orgasms are a great conversation starter at parties. With an adventurous woman, you might even win a bet.
72 years old (1939) USA citizen
Prostatic carcinoma dxed June 2009 by PSA (7.0) and then Bx
PSAs yearly since 2001 ranged 1.52 to 7.0. RALP July 2009
PSAs 0 since

Purgatory
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   Posted 2/22/2011 10:02 AM (GMT -6)   
and with no mess to worry about, can lead to more out of the "box" episodes in more daring places.
Age: 58, 56 dx, PSA: 7/07 5.8, 10/08 16.3
3rd Biopsy: 9/08 7 of 7 Positive, 40-90%, Gleason 4+3
open RP: 11/08, on catheters for 101 days
Path Rpt: Gleason 3+4, pT2c, 42g, 20% cancer, 1 pos marg
Incont & ED: None
Post Surgery PSA: 2/09 .05,5/09 .1, 6/09 .11. 8/09 .16
Post SRT PSA: 1/10 .12, 4/8 .04, 8/6 .06 11/10 Not taking it
Latest: 6 Corr Surgeries to Bladder Neck, SP Catheter since 10/1/9, SRT 39 Sess/72 gy ended 11/09, 21 Catheters, Ileal Conduit Surgery 9/23/10

mjluke
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   Posted 2/22/2011 2:35 PM (GMT -6)   

Hey Purg:

Don't stop now- tell us more- what have you been up to?


 
63 years old-tumor discovered on digital exam- biopsy December 2008-
4 of 12 samples positive-all on right side
Gleason 3+3=6
PSA-3
Otherwise excellent health.
Brachytherapy- May 19, 2009 -so far, so good.
 
  "There may come a day when the courage of men will fail, but it will not be this day."

Bob D
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   Posted 2/22/2011 10:37 PM (GMT -6)   
I agree Purg.
The intensity of my orgasms are just as great as pre op. I too produce the "pre cum" when aroused just like the "old days". I am not saying I was ever a **** star, but my lenght is back also with the regular use of my Mr. Happy. Three years ago I was preparing for my March 5th surgery. I was devastated and thought my sex life was history. My recovery is nothing short of a miracle.

Out of the roof, I love the Clinton joke and it is so true. No evidence would have stained that derss. LOL.
Age 59, psa 4.7 in Jan. 08. Biopsy: one positive sample out of 13. 1% of one sample cancer. Prostate removed on 3/5/08. open Surgery. Northeast Georgia Medical Center, Gainesville Ga. Nerves spared. Cath out 12 days later. Continence good. No pads needed since 6/10/08. First PSA: Less than 0.1 on 6/17/08. First erection five days post op. Update, Oct. 2010. Full natural erections. PSA, <0.1

Purgatory
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   Posted 2/22/2011 10:52 PM (GMT -6)   
Bob,

On the ED side, mine was a miracle of sorts, since I went into an open RP with the game plan as being non-nerve sparing to cut wide margins. In the end, left nerve's were taken out, but due to difficulties, right side was left, but noted on the surgical report as "damaged". Even with that said, never suffered a day of ED after the op, as soon as I was well enough, all systems worked as normal. To this day, my Uro/Surgeon still marvels at this, but refuses to take the credit or glory for it. Definitely feel that whatever happened is a rare exception.

David
Age: 58, 56 dx, PSA: 7/07 5.8, 10/08 16.3
3rd Biopsy: 9/08 7 of 7 Positive, 40-90%, Gleason 4+3
open RP: 11/08, on catheters for 101 days
Path Rpt: Gleason 3+4, pT2c, 42g, 20% cancer, 1 pos marg
Incont & ED: None
Post Surgery PSA: 2/09 .05,5/09 .1, 6/09 .11. 8/09 .16
Post SRT PSA: 1/10 .12, 4/8 .04, 8/6 .06 11/10 Not taking it
Latest: 6 Corr Surgeries to Bladder Neck, SP Catheter since 10/1/9, SRT 39 Sess/72 gy ended 11/09, 21 Catheters, Ileal Conduit Surgery 9/23/10

Purgatory
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   Posted 2/22/2011 10:53 PM (GMT -6)   
On the Clinton thing, if Monica had been an "11", there wouldn't have been any evidence either *G*
Age: 58, 56 dx, PSA: 7/07 5.8, 10/08 16.3
3rd Biopsy: 9/08 7 of 7 Positive, 40-90%, Gleason 4+3
open RP: 11/08, on catheters for 101 days
Path Rpt: Gleason 3+4, pT2c, 42g, 20% cancer, 1 pos marg
Incont & ED: None
Post Surgery PSA: 2/09 .05,5/09 .1, 6/09 .11. 8/09 .16
Post SRT PSA: 1/10 .12, 4/8 .04, 8/6 .06 11/10 Not taking it
Latest: 6 Corr Surgeries to Bladder Neck, SP Catheter since 10/1/9, SRT 39 Sess/72 gy ended 11/09, 21 Catheters, Ileal Conduit Surgery 9/23/10

Pocketman
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   Posted 2/22/2011 11:14 PM (GMT -6)   
My dry orgasms seem to be more intense. Is it because there is no physical release, such as ejaculation? Frankly, I don't know.

dogbot, I'm still experiencing stress incontinence, but don't seem to have any leakage during intercourse.
Age 61, Diagnosed July 2010
PSA 04/09 - 2.5; 05/10 - 3.7; 07/10 - 4.7
DRE and Ultrasound - Negative
Size at biopsy - 32 grams
T1C, 3+3=6, 1 core of 12 60% positive
da Vinci nerve sparing RP 10/29/10
Post op biopsy indicated bilateral Gleason 6 tumors
Continent 90% and hopeful
Minor ED - 85% naturally, 95% with Cialis
6 week PSA - "undetectable"

Tony Crispino
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   Posted 2/22/2011 11:21 PM (GMT -6)   
Hey guys we can fake it too!

I'm just sayin'

Tony
Advanced Prostate Cancer at age 44 (I am 48 now)
pT3b,N0,Mx (original PSA was 19.8) EPE, PM, SVI. Gleason 4+3=7

Treatments:
Da Vinci Surgery ~ 2/16/2007
Adjuvant Radiation Therapy ~ IMRT Completed 8/07
Adjuvant Hormone Therapy ~ 28 months on Casodex and Lupron.
Undetectable PSA.

Blog: www.caringbridge.org/visit/tonycrispino

Sleepless09
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   Posted 2/22/2011 11:32 PM (GMT -6)   
Brainsurgeon -- great to hear from you! And, what a post:

"Dry orgasms are a great conversation starter at parties. With an adventurous woman, you might even win a bet."

I might just have to fly over to Switzerland to see you in action at a dinner party!

Sheldon AKA Sleepless
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Age 67 in Apil '09 at news of 4 of 12 cores positive T2B and Gleason 3 + 3 and 5% to 25% PSA 1.5
Re-read of slides in June said Gleason 3 + 4 same four cores 5% to 15%
June 29 daVinci prostatectomy, Dr. Eric Estey, at Royal Alexandra Hospital Edmonton one night stay
From "knock out" to wake up in recovery less than two hours.  Actual surgery 70 minutes
Flew home to Winnipeg on July 3 after 5 nights in Ramada Inn  ---  perfect recovery spot!
Catheter out July 9
Final pathology is 3 + 4 Gleason 7, clear margins, clear nodes, T2C, sugeron says report is "excellent"
 
Oct 1st 09 -- dry at night, during day some stress issues.
Oct 31st padless 24/7 
 
First post op PSA Sept 09  less than 0.02
PSA on Oct 23, 2009 less than 0.02
PSA on Jan 8, 2010  less than 0.02
PSA on April 9, 2010 less than 0.02 
PSA on July 9, 2010 (one year) less than 0.02
  

Tony Crispino
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   Posted 2/22/2011 11:48 PM (GMT -6)   
Sheldon,
That's funny. But a dinner party?

So I have to ask Brainsurgeon:

Exactly how do you make this a party favor?

"I bet I can outlast any man you ever met?"

or

"I tell you what, I can outlast every woman in this place and I got a C note to prove it"

Tony
Advanced Prostate Cancer at age 44 (I am 48 now)
pT3b,N0,Mx (original PSA was 19.8) EPE, PM, SVI. Gleason 4+3=7

Treatments:
Da Vinci Surgery ~ 2/16/2007
Adjuvant Radiation Therapy ~ IMRT Completed 8/07
Adjuvant Hormone Therapy ~ 28 months on Casodex and Lupron.
Undetectable PSA.

Blog: www.caringbridge.org/visit/tonycrispino

English Alf
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   Posted 2/23/2011 2:18 AM (GMT -6)   
He might not have made Monica's dress dirty, but he'd have still got in trouble!

brainsurgeon
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   Posted 2/23/2011 9:57 AM (GMT -6)   
TC-LasVegas said...
Sheldon,
That's funny. But a dinner party?

So I have to ask Brainsurgeon:

Exactly how do you make this a party favor?

"I bet I can outlast any man you ever met?"

or

"I tell you what, I can outlast every woman in this place and I got a C note to prove it"

Tony


What I was trying to say was it always makes a good conversation starter to a young lady, and if she is really an adventure type, she might want to see proof of a dry orgasm. BTW, I, like others do have about 150% of the usual pre-op "rapture" when the bells ring. Don't know why, but who questions that???

DaSlink
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   Posted 2/23/2011 10:06 AM (GMT -6)   
I want to go to one of his parties.All the women we know are going through Menopause. No party like his around here for sure!
Every minute you fish or ride,adds an hour to your life!

Age 52 Dx age 53 daVinci surgery
prostate volume 24gms
Biopsy 12 cores with 7 positive- left base,right base,left mid gland,right mid gland, left apex.
Gleason score of 7
First PSA 38.7 on10/05/2010
Second PSA 49.9 on11/23/2010
CT negative
Bone scan Negative
daVinci RRP on 01/25/2011 by Dr Mark G Delworth at Bethesda North Hospital.

Gene214
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   Posted 2/23/2011 3:02 PM (GMT -6)   
Ok. Let me add this coming from an old 67 year old: I have both the AUS which is supposed to restrain the urine and the IPP.  I was totally surprised at the first big o after implant of these devices.  I was so discouraged at what I shot.  Urine.  As much or more than semen.  I was both thrilled (at the O) and discouragingly shocked (at the spurts of urine).  Emptying out before sex works somewhat.  But then I began to notice the surges of urine actually increased the pleasure.  Put that in your pipes and smoke it.  P. S.  Although my wife did not object to the new liquid, I did, so I use a condom.  And the condom produces no ill effects.  So at 67, we're still going strong (after the big bump of PC). 
Gene214

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   Posted 2/23/2011 4:44 PM (GMT -6)   
Purgatory said...
and with no mess to worry about, can lead to more out of the "box" episodes in more daring places.
brings a whole new meaning to " thinking outside the box."

Purgatory
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   Posted 2/23/2011 6:07 PM (GMT -6)   
yup, lots of things you can do with the box, outside of the box, or in the box, or behind the box.....................
Age: 58, 56 dx, PSA: 7/07 5.8, 10/08 16.3
3rd Biopsy: 9/08 7 of 7 Positive, 40-90%, Gleason 4+3
open RP: 11/08, on catheters for 101 days
Path Rpt: Gleason 3+4, pT2c, 42g, 20% cancer, 1 pos marg
Incont & ED: None
Post Surgery PSA: 2/09 .05,5/09 .1, 6/09 .11. 8/09 .16
Post SRT PSA: 1/10 .12, 4/8 .04, 8/6 .06 11/10 Not taking it
Latest: 6 Corr Surgeries to Bladder Neck, SP Catheter since 10/1/9, SRT 39 Sess/72 gy ended 11/09, 21 Catheters, Ileal Conduit Surgery 9/23/10

Bob D
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   Posted 2/24/2011 1:11 AM (GMT -6)   
Good for you Gene214. Good to see you still going strong.
Age 59, psa 4.7 in Jan. 08. Biopsy: one positive sample out of 13. 1% of one sample cancer. Prostate removed on 3/5/08. open Surgery. Northeast Georgia Medical Center, Gainesville Ga. Nerves spared. Cath out 12 days later. Continence good. No pads needed since 6/10/08. First PSA: Less than 0.1 on 6/17/08. First erection five days post op. Update, Oct. 2010. Full natural erections. PSA, <0.1

Bob D
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   Posted 2/24/2011 1:13 AM (GMT -6)   
Purg,
That is fantastic with such nerve removal and damage to have regained your erections, wow.
It was meant to be so enjoy it. I am. LOL
Age 59, psa 4.7 in Jan. 08. Biopsy: one positive sample out of 13. 1% of one sample cancer. Prostate removed on 3/5/08. open Surgery. Northeast Georgia Medical Center, Gainesville Ga. Nerves spared. Cath out 12 days later. Continence good. No pads needed since 6/10/08. First PSA: Less than 0.1 on 6/17/08. First erection five days post op. Update, Oct. 2010. Full natural erections. PSA, <0.1

Purgatory
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   Posted 2/24/2011 1:25 AM (GMT -6)   
bob, thats been one of my few good things out of a prolonged and difficullt pc journey so far, but i will take what i can get, like the rest of us
Age: 58, 56 dx, PSA: 7/07 5.8, 10/08 16.3
3rd Biopsy: 9/08 7 of 7 Positive, 40-90%, Gleason 4+3
open RP: 11/08, on catheters for 101 days
Path Rpt: Gleason 3+4, pT2c, 42g, 20% cancer, 1 pos marg
Incont & ED: None
Post Surgery PSA: 2/09 .05,5/09 .1, 6/09 .11. 8/09 .16
Post SRT PSA: 1/10 .12, 4/8 .04, 8/6 .06 11/10 Not taking it
Latest: 6 Corr Surgeries to Bladder Neck, SP Catheter since 10/1/9, SRT 39 Sess/72 gy ended 11/09, 21 Catheters, Ileal Conduit Surgery 9/23/10
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