I'm sorry to hear you and your husband are having to go through this.
My wife also was alone at the hospital while I was in surgery. Our son was to have been with her, but he and his wife won a free trip to Las Vegas at a baseball game the night before, and it was the sort of prize where they had to be willing and able to leave immediately. He was really conflicted, but I assured him I wanted him and his wife to take advantage of the prize, so Beth ended up alone.
She said four hours can be an incredibly long time waiting, so be sure to take reading material or a Kindle or something. The surgery can be a couple of hours, or it can be much longer (mine ended up being 4 and a half hours because of some extra work the surgeon did).
Beth was allowed in the pre-op area and tells me I was joking and flirting with the nurses as they wheeled me toward the operating room. I don't remember any of that, but I guess it's true. She then had to go off to a waiting area.
It will be approaching supper time by the time you're reunited with your husband, so you might want to take a snack or drop by the hospital cafeteria at some point.
If the surgeon has prior surgeries that day, be prepared for your procedure to be moved forward or slid later, depending on how his other procedures have gone.
If you're the prayerful type, an appropriate prayerbook might be also good to have with you.
My wife surprised me with a vase of flowers in the room....a very nice touch.
Good luck to both of you. And welcome to the "club." I wish you didn't have to join, but please let us know how things go.
Dx in June 2010.
PSA gradually rising for 3 years to 6.2
Biopsy confirmed cancer in 6 of 12 cores, all on left side
Gleason 7 (3 + 4)
Bone scan, CT scan, rib x-rays negative.
Negative margins; negative seminal vesicles
5 brothers, ages 52-67 ; I'm the only one with PCa
Continence OK after 7 weeks. ED continues.
PSA 1/3/10: 0.01