Zufus and Steve. I see both sides of your argument and understand where you are coming from.
Zufus, your skepticism and general distrust of doctors is legendary here. We get it, New people coming here really don't need horror stories of your experiences thrust upon them in the first post you make to them. The concept of replying to every poster with your dire warnings of how doctors are unscrupulous and not to be trust is wrong, that's the wrong was to approach the subject. Telling them to question all treatment discussions implies that they should approach every doctor with mistrust and skepticism, when we know you really mean to question and make sure you understand what they are telling you, the drawbacks, etc. Two different approachs entirely. Yes, there are bad doctors, but there are many, many more good doctors and for each guy here with a bad experience here there's 10 others with good ones. I really think that throwing out the vibes of 'they're all crooks, watch out for them, never trust them" doesn't have a place here. You accuse Steve of sugar coating, I don't see that at all. Telling people to make sure they understand things, with questions, etc, getting second opinions, things like that is logical and correct, and doom and gloom in every post isn't. How about
reining it back some with the doom and gloom side of it, ok?
Steve, I appreciate what you said, but you have a really bad way of saying it. Your post is a major flame from start to finish. I understand how we can sometimes lose it, not having a good day, feeling bad etc. but we need to take a minute to reread what we are getting ready to post, to avoid unnecessarily flaming or insulting. If you felt/feel so strongly then maybe the best thing to do would have been to email zufus and you two could have a private discussion about
it. Sorry, but I gotta do some editing out of Rule 4 violations. At least zufus did have a chance to read and respond before I got to it.
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James C. Age 63
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4/07: PSA 7.6, 7/07 Biopsy: 3 of 16 PCa, 5% involved, left lobe, GS6
9/07: Nerve Sparing
open RP, Path: pT2c, 110 gms., clear except:
Probable microscopic involvement-left apical margin -GS6
3 Years: PSA's .04 each test until 04/10-.06, 09/10-.09, 12/10-.09, 02/11-.08