Richard, welcome to HW...I'll look forward to your series of posts.
For me the denial phase was short-lived, i.e. it pretty well ended during the session with my urologist wherein we first discussed my cancer and my options. My first hope was that the pathology was wrong..."why don't we send it to another lab?'. His response that he always uses the "best" (his opinion of Bostwick) shot down that hope. My second was that maybe I should just watchful-wait. The doc dicsussed my Gleason and the Hopkins criteria for Active Surveillance and that shot down my second hope.
After that I focused on finding the right treatment for me and denial was returned to its' rightful place as a river in Egypt (and other African countries for geography buffs).
Age 62 (64 now), G 3 + 4 = 7, T1C, PSA 4.2, 2/16 cancerous, 27cc. Brachytherapy 12/9/08. 73 Iodine-125 seeds. Procedure went great, catheter out before I went home, only minor discomfort. Everything continues to function normally as of 12/8/10. PSA: 6 mo 1.4, 1 yr. 1.0, 2 yr. .8. My docs are "delighted"! My journey: