Kak and hubbie-
- sorry you are not getting the support you need from your biological family - if we all had the support we needed ( or feel we were supposed to get) there would be no need for online support groups as well as the creation of "extended families".
- this is a great place to vent and ask questions and respond to others as you go along in this journey.
- there is the old line, "you can choose your friends but not youor family" .. my Mother had the nerve to tell my sister that "he (me) better not die before me" - Mother hates being upstaged when she talks about
- also keep in mind that some of your family come from the time period it was not aloud or proper to talk about
disease and if you spoke the word "CANCER" your might be more prone to get it... if you didn't say it, it didn't exist.
-when my Mother got cancer ( soft tissue cancer - had the right side of her back removed) at age 47 ( 1974) some of her friends would not hug her or associate with her since they might get the "cancer virus"..
-I am not making excuses for how they treated you, just some possible insights into how people react to others ( especially those not related by blood) to cancer...
-you have family here...
Age:55 -gay with spouse of 14 years, Steve -Peterborough, Ontario, Canada
Biopsy:10/16/09- 6 of 12 cancerous samples, Gleason 7 (4+3)
Pathology:pT3a -Gleason 7 -extraprostatic extension -perineural invasion -prostate weight -34.1 gm
PSA:04/08/10 -0.05 -Zero Club
PSA:09/23/10 -0.05 -Zero Club
PSA:03/24/11 -0.02 -Zero Club