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DJBearGuy
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   Posted 4/10/2011 4:35 PM (GMT -6)   
Most of the time I try to enjoy a sort of normal life (not all good--but that is normal) and avoid thinking about cancer. Exceptions being the few days before blood test time. So, for example, I only come by here occasionally.

But this year, my wife signed us up for a local Relay for Life event. She usually does like me, avoids thinking/talking about having survived cancer. But she signed us up in part to support another relative, recently diagnosed. So, we put in a reasonably good donation, and off we went to the event.

I didn't really know what to expect. It turns out that, as a survivor, you are treated like a celebrity, or a league champion. You get a special survivor T-shirt, and you get a foam candle on a cardboard cake that says how many years (birthdays) you have had since diagnosis. I'm only 2, but some folks were over 30 (wow). And, you carry balloons, color-coded to indicate that number of years. 2 purple ones for me. Plus, a pretty hefty survivor medal to wear.

We heard a local celebrity talk about his own personal experience with melanoma, his own and his father's. Very moving.

Then came the first event, which was the survivor walk. Volunteers line up around the track. Survivors walk around the track, and slap hands with all the volunteers who tell us "congratulations!". After one lap, we gather together and release balloons and doves together. Then, volunteers continue to walk for 24 hours, recognizing that cancer never sleeps.

It's sort of hokey, and yet I was moved nearly to tears. (And I'm not even on HT!) I guess I'm in denial most of the time. But, an event like this makes you look at life and death in the face. And appreciate the folks who volunteer, and all you fine people here.

DJ
Diagnosis at 53. PSA 2007 about 2; 2008 4.3
Biopsy Sept 2008: 6 of 12 cores pos; Gleason 4+3 = 7
CT & Bone scan neg
Da Vinci at City of Hope Dec 8, 2008
Rad prostatectomy & lymph node dissection
Cath out on 7th day, in on 8th day, out again 14th day after neg cystogram
Path: pT2c; lymph nodes neg; margins involv; 41 grams,
PSA 1/08, 4/09,7/09, 10/09, 11/09,2/10 <0.01, 10/10 0.1, 2/11 0.08

davidg
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   Posted 4/10/2011 4:39 PM (GMT -6)   
sounds like it's a good thing for you.

My wife and kids participated to same event yearly. I'd always be off at the gym when they did. Then I got cancer :)

I don't think we're in denial. I think it's healthy to move on but to also remember. I think our perspective on life, ourselves and loved ones changes for the better when we discover our disease and that living in denial could hurt this awakening. Just my opinion.

DJBearGuy
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   Posted 4/11/2011 10:38 PM (GMT -6)   
davidg,

Yes, interesting way to put it. Before diagnosis, I never had occasion to read anything like HealingWell.com, and now I read it at least weekly.

By the way, it seems like Relay for Life is a good thing. This is the month for it, so if you feel so moved, they can use our help.


DJ
Diagnosis at 53. PSA 2007 about 2; 2008 4.3
Biopsy Sept 2008: 6 of 12 cores pos; Gleason 4+3 = 7
CT & Bone scan neg
Da Vinci at City of Hope Dec 8, 2008
Rad prostatectomy & lymph node dissection
Cath out on 7th day, in on 8th day, out again 14th day after neg cystogram
Path: pT2c; lymph nodes neg; margins involv; 41 grams,
PSA 1/08, 4/09,7/09, 10/09, 11/09,2/10 <0.01, 10/10 0.1, 2/11 0.08

SHU93
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   Posted 4/12/2011 3:02 PM (GMT -6)   
I did a Relay for Life two years ago where the donations went to the American Cancer Society. Was a very emotional event for me and my family. But their recent announcements on not supporting having men get PSA tested I will not support any longer. That PSA test saved my Life and Saves Others as well!!!

Sounds like they turned from a non-profit to being now linked with Healthcare guidelines for Insurance Companies.....tests cost money... they were always the proponent of getting testing and tested early...

davidg
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   Posted 4/12/2011 3:52 PM (GMT -6)   
are you serious? I didn't know that.

Ziggy9
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   Posted 4/12/2011 4:00 PM (GMT -6)   
SHU93 said...
I did a Relay for Life two years ago where the donations went to the American Cancer Society. Was a very emotional event for me and my family. But their recent announcements on not supporting having men get PSA tested I will not support any longer. That PSA test saved my Life and Saves Others as well!!!

Sounds like they turned from a non-profit to being now linked with Healthcare guidelines for Insurance Companies.....tests cost money... they were always the proponent of getting testing and tested early...


Not this again. Psa testing costs very little. The ACS has reasons why they have downgraded testing. It has nothing to do with the cost of testing. It's more the over reaction to its results. They are still nonprofit too.

Post Edited (Ziggy9) : 4/12/2011 3:14:10 PM (GMT-6)


SHU93
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   Posted 4/12/2011 5:32 PM (GMT -6)   
So there mentality is what u don't know won't kill u?
Or based on your age you'll die of something else so no reason to treat? How o they know what ur going to die from?
That's what the docs said to my dad who died of pc.
Why are they concerned with people over reacteed they have cancer?
Not sure anyone can over react from that news?
Kinda like hearing no worries u got the good cancer to have....

davidg
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   Posted 4/12/2011 5:48 PM (GMT -6)   
the worst thing about these guidelines is that they throw everyone in the same bucket. My grandfather and his brothers had prostate cancer. We know genetics plays a role in all this. What's the point of creating guidelines for me that are also supposed to cover men with no family history of prostate cancer?

Same thing for African Americans. We know they get it more frequently.
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