hello, liefde, and welcome to HW. sorry you need our community, but certainly glad you found us and joined among us.
i feel bad for both you and your partner. he's in a tough situation, but some of the other advanced brothers here would quickly say its still not a hopeless situation.
i understand your depression, and i can sense your partners denialism, neither one of them are healthy situation. you can work on your depression, but it might be a harder sale on your partner's end of things.
please keep posting here, and keeping us updated on his, and your situation
my best of luck to both of you
david in sc
Age: 58, 56 dx, PSA: 7/07 5.8, 10/08 16.3
3rd Biopsy: 9/08 7 of 7 Positive, 40-90%, Gleason 4+3
open RP: 11/08, on catheters for 101 days
Path Rpt: Gleason 3+4, pT2c, 42g, 20% cancer, 1 pos margin
Incont & ED: None
Post Surgery PSA: 2/09 .05,5/09 .1, 6/09 .11. 8/09 .16
Post SRT PSA: 1/10 .12, 4/8 .04, 8/6 .06, 2/11 1.24, 4/11 3.81
Latest: 6 Corr Surgeries to Bladder Neck, SP Catheter since 10/1/9, SRT 39 Sess/72 gy ended 11/09, 21 Catheters, Ileal Conduit Surgery 9/10