sex after surgery (single male, 57) - not having enough orgasms

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lipwak
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Date Joined Apr 2009
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   Posted 6/27/2011 11:51 AM (GMT -6)   
HI,

I had my prostatectomy back in April of '09. I had an erection and orgasm within 10 days of that so I haven't worried much about my sexual response since then. I've had erections and orgasms since then. Some are more powerful then others and sometimes, more often than I'd like, i won't have an orgasm though I get erections. I have had earth-shaking orgasms that reach down to my core a few times since the operation but most are good enough, varying in intensity. To be honest, those few that were mind-blowing were the first in a long time including before the operation.

I am a single straight man, no girlfriend or wife so my sexual stimulation is my right or left hand (usually with soap). Maybe it is because I am 57 and have been single all of my life, though I've had plenty of girlfriends and intercourse, or maybe it is due to my lack of prostatic fluid (which can intensify the feeling of release when I ejaculate) or my ho-hum sex life that is causing me to not have more orgasms. I have started to ejaculate urine about a year ago and that was kinda cool, almost a replacement for semen but sometimes I ejaculate urine, sometimes I don't.

I try to vary how I ********* and sometimes that works. In any case, I want to have orgasms more of the time. I feel like I have a deep one stored up and no matter how much I try I can't get it to come out. I try often enough (whenever I feel like it since I live by myself...)

What is your experience? Is it typical at this age to have this kind of batting average? Is it more due to the surgery or age? I would also add that I am extremely inactive. I sit in my comfortable chair all day up til I go to bed. I am sure more exercise and more social involvement would help. I also unemployed and spend most of my time alone. I don't think I am depressed. I feel upbeat about everything and am happy to see people when I do. A more active lifestyle would help I am sure. (And so would a sexual partner but that is unlikely unless some serendipitous happens.)s

Thanks for any info.

Cheers,

John L

PS My PSAs have been unmeasurable for the most part so I am not worried about the cancer coming back, for now...

Steve n Dallas
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   Posted 6/27/2011 11:59 AM (GMT -6)   

Some of what you described sounds similar to my situation.

Have you taken a week or two off from NOT trying to have an orgasam?

 


lipwak
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Date Joined Apr 2009
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   Posted 6/27/2011 12:04 PM (GMT -6)   
Yes. I vary it. Sometimes I go for a week or two maybe even three or more, just not feeling like it. In the old days that would make it more likely that the next time would be easier. But as I get older, that is less the case.

Thanks!

gold horse
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Date Joined Nov 2009
Total Posts : 360
   Posted 6/28/2011 6:24 PM (GMT -6)   
Men you are the luckiest guy in the world if you have an eration ten days after surgery,it took me ten months and viagra to be 95%. yeah
DIAGN=46 YEARS
GLEASON=3+3
FATHER HAD PC,THEN I THEN MY BROTHER STILL HAS TWO BROTHER PC FREE.
MARRIED,TWO CHILDREN.AGE 13 AND 8.
LAPROSCOPY SURGERY 6/2005
PATOLOGY REPORT.
GLEASON=3+3
TUMOR VOLUME=5%
LYMPHOVASCULAR INVASION=NEG
PERINEURAL INVASION=POSI
TUMOR MULTICENTRICITY=NEG
EXTRAPROSTATIC INVASION=NEG
SEMINAL VESICLES BOTH=CLEAN
MARGIN ALL=NEG
PT2ANXMX
DEVELOP SCART TISSUE AND NEEDED A SECOND SURGERY BECAUSE COULD NOT URINATE,
PSA 6/05=0.04,0.04,0.04,6/06,0.04,0.04,0.04,6/07,0.04,0.04,0.04,6/08,0.04,0.04,1/09
0.04,10/09,0.04
 

lipwak
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Date Joined Apr 2009
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   Posted 6/28/2011 6:51 PM (GMT -6)   
Yes, I admit I have alot to be thankful for. I also am thankful for having a good surgeon. My brother had the same operation elsewhere and has had nowhere near the success in terms of his sexuality. Nerve sparing was only accomplished in one set of nerves. (My father also died of PC...)

skeener
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Date Joined Dec 2009
Total Posts : 214
   Posted 6/28/2011 7:48 PM (GMT -6)   
In the same boat. Kinda personal to discuss on this site. Email me if you like.
Age:  63 
Biopsy: May 09 showed 2 of 12 cores positive for prostate cancer -- 1 at 5% and 1 at 25%.  Cancer indicated as non aggressive.  Gleason Score: 3+3.
RRP on Oct 23/09 in London, Ontario.  Excellent surgeon. 
7 Weeks Post Op -  The fears I had about bad things about the operation and recovery did not materialise except of course ED!!.  Otherwise, everything went very smoothly.  Incontinence not a problem.  Wear a pad when out just in case. Pain was never a problem.
Pathology:  Unremarkable 
First followup PSA and Visit: Feb 11/10 - 0.0.
 
Next PSA May
Next doctor's visit in 6 months      
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