The comment was made about the statistics beating you - that is my part, am bruised and sore from it.
At just about 21 months from DaVinci surgery, I am still on at least one pad per day, sometimes more, and my adjuvant radiation probably made that permanent.
I was, first day off the catheter, dry at night, and I did not have to get up during the night. BUT, I did keep a bucket by the bed, since the first couple of mornings I could not make it to the toilet. Once I sat up, it was seconds to flood, not minutes. Over time, I have had major floods at night, almost always associated to something carbonated (beer, coke, sparkling water, doesn't matter, just carbonated), so I still keep a pad at night. But now I can actually walk, not run, to the toilet. I do have to be sure the "facility" is available before I sit up, as once up, the clock is ticking.
Daytime was another story altogether. For 3 months I wore a depends pant, and went through a very slow improvement from 7-8 pads in a day down to 2-3, with some real ugly days (the pant was a must for any real activity). Over time, with several short walks per day instead of one long one, and a kegels session at the end of each, I started making more progress than I had with the one long (1-2 mile walk). I suspect that it was "less is better" when done more othen.
By 5 months the pants were gone, and I was at just 1 pad a day. Then came RT - now I'm back at 1 most days, 2 a few, and the rare 3. The nighttime flood is still guaranteed if I have a beer after 7pm, or more than one cup of coffee in a day. So many adjustments had to be made, but there has been progress. Too slow for my liking, but it is better than it was.