Check my stats, similar to your husband's. My urologist/surgeon said no to surgery. My medical oncologist also said no to surgery. It simply would not work as the cancer was very likely already out of the gland.
See a PCa medical oncologist as soon as possible and start looking for a PCa radiation oncologist, they are the ones that will do you the most good at this point, not a surgeon. With your husband's stats, he will most likely have radiation after the surgery so why do both? The risk and side effects of the surgery are not worth it if he then also needs radiation. Also I am surprised that he hasn't been started on hormone therapy.
This is a high risk situation and you need to treat it as such.
PSA 59 on 8-26-2010 age 60. Biopsy 9-8-2010 12/12 positive, 20-80% involved, PNI in 3 cores, G 3+3,3+4,and 4+3=G7, T2b.
Eligard shot and daily Jalyn started on 10-7-2010.
IMRT to prostate and lymph nodes 25 fractions started on 11-8-2010
HDR Brachytherapy December 6 and 13, 2010.
PSA <.1 and T 23 on 2-3-2011.
PSA <.1 on 4-7-2011
Second Eligard shot on 4-7-2011
PSA <.1 and T <3 on 7-15-2011