Vixin: You seem to be an unusually good writer for our forum and your story is lovely and inspiring. We're glad you've joined us. But, sadly, there are a few parts that cross the line for our PG-rated forum. I've made a few edits below. I really hope you will let me help you rewrite the excised parts to restore your lovely story. PeterDisAbelard, Moderator
Guys, this thread has been really insightful to me, and thought my story - giving a woman's perspective - might give you guys back a bit.
I've had a friend / colleague over more than a decade, and subconsciously I think we've always been attracted to each other. This reached a very conscious level last weekend, and quickly moved to his place. When it got to the stage where it was clear we were going to have sex he suddenly got very serious. He then told me that he'd been diagnosed with prostate cancer almost three years ago, and had been operated. He said that his penis was now "a couple of inches" shorter than before, didn't get properly hard and he no longer ejaculated. He still had orgasm, and enjoyed sex.
My first thought was "goodness, my dear friend has had a brush with the Big C", and I asked him whether he was OK and clear. He was - he just wanted to let me know that his sexual performance wasn't where it used to be. At this time I was thinking "is he trying to tell me he's impotent?" I said "hey, let's just see where this goes."
I think because I like him so much, and have been subconsciously lusting for him for so long, he caused some major orgasms on my part during the foreplay. He commented on how good that made him feel, and how it turned him on.
And then we had intercourse … and it was fantastic! Maybe he is slightly below average in size - but well within the normal range. He wasn't rock hard, but certainly hard enough to please me. And to be honest, being 47 years old it's not the first time my lovers are not 100% rock hard (we're all getting older). [A bit too enthusiastic here.]
I told him that had he not told me of the penis shrinkage or ED issues then I would never have guessed it - it was all so within the range of "normal". He didn't believe me. I pointed out that I of course didn't have any experience of what he used to be like, only what he is now - and that certainly was very, very satisfying.
It was great to see his confidence grow, and to be able to have contributed to it. I just wish he could shake the remaining doubt. Example: [Bit too explicit here, sadly.]
It's been really, really helpful to me to read the deliberations you guys go through. It saddens me though to read the concern some of you express about
ever finding someone new post this experience. I know it affects you all differently, but be careful you don't make too big an issue out of it either. I know my guy seriously did - he had nothing to worry about
and is a fantastic partner in the sack! And if any of you guys have ideas about
how I can help him to completely get over his insecurity on this score then I would be ever so grateful. Mainly because I want him to feel better about
himself, but also because it hurts me when he doesn't believe me (reference to the examples above).
Post Edited By Moderator (PeterDisAbelard) : 3/5/2013 8:29:19 PM (GMT-7)