My dad was diagnosed with PCa several years younger than your dad and did the HT route as he was beyond surgury. This was 30 years ago. Five years into the treatment his doctor confirmed the PCa would get him --- but, he told dad he'd have to make it to 140 and not be whacked by anything else if he was to die of PCa.
Others wiser than I, and a whole lot better informed, will be able to give you better advice, but I can tell you that although your dad's cancer is a bad one (and I don't mean to imply there are any good ones!) there's no need to hurry out to stock up on sack cloth and ashes. In the early days after diagnosis it is difficult, and near impossible, to understand how lucky your dad is --- his PCa has been discovered and there are lots of therapies and treatment options available. Unlucky would be he'd not asked to have his PSA checked and was blithely going along not being treated.
In the above I don't mean to be disrespectful of how truly awful and devistating this news is for your dad and his family. I remember the terror I felt three years ago. What I do want to do is help you move beyond the terror stage, understand the real threat to your father's live, at least for the next few years, is likely being hit by a bus, and move on to appreciate that worry about
tomorrow's possibilities can ruin today's delights, and that is a terrible thing to allow to happen.
I look forward to reading more posts from you in the future, and hearing how your dad is doing.
Sheldon AKA Sleepless
Age 67 in Apil '09 at news of 4 of 12 cores positive T2B and Gleason 3 + 3 and 5% to 25% PSA 1.5
Re-read of slides in June said Gleason 3 + 4 same four cores 5% to 15%
June 29 daVinci prostatectomy, Dr. Eric Estey, at Royal Alexandra Hospital Edmonton one night stay
From "knock out" to wake up in recovery less than two hours. Actual surgery 70 minutes
Flew home to Winnipeg on July 3 after 5 nights in Ramada Inn --- perfect recovery spot!
Catheter out July 9
Final pathology is 3 + 4 Gleason 7, clear margins, clear nodes, T2C, sugeron says report is "excellent"
Oct 1st 09 -- dry at night, during day some stress issues.
Oct 31st padless 24/7
First post op PSA Sept 09 less than 0.02
PSA on Oct 23, 2009 less than 0.02
PSA on Jan 8, 2010 less than 0.02
PSA on April 9, 2010 less than 0.02
PSA on July 9, 2010 (one year) less than 0.02