Wife and I took a GFAHM weekend. Thought I would throw a new acronym out there, Good For A Happy Marriage - GFAHM.
We just spent 3 days in Asheville, NC, mostly holed up in a nice suite overlooking the city and the mountains. Best part, we had no specific agenda, no laptops allowed, and mostly just chilled out and enjoyed each other's company. We did some shopping, some looking at antiques, and did have plenty of fine dining (no concern for healthy eating - went for eating that just plain tasted good, lol). My poor "working-her-self-to-death" wife really needed a getaway like this, and so did I.
Our suite had its own seperate hot tub right in the room, so we made good use of that. I am not really suppose to use them, due to my morphine patches and the urostomy device I wear, but went for it anyhow. Jr. down below, lets just say, had adequate work out sessions, wife is a different person when you take her away from her normal daily pressures and being in a strange place.
We did talk through lots of things, and we both agree, we know my true prognosis and current situation, neither are good, and both ultimately are going downhill a little bit at the time. We agree, that we want to enjoy as much life as possible from this point on, while I am still able to do so.
I paid for this weekend, by coming home to extra severe pain. Asheville is all hills, as it is surrounded by mountains, so you can't walk anywhere without big hills. This really took a toll on me, I pushed a bit too hard, in order to be a good sport. However, once we got home, I spent the rest of the afternoon and all evening in severe pain, and had to spend most of the time in bed on max. doses of pain meds. Kept getting chills and throbbing pain, both things that happen when I push the fatigue limits too far. I knew this would happen, but it was a great weekend, and it was still worth it to me, to see how happy it made my wife.
We will do this all over again in a few weeks, when we make another trip to the beach in Charleston to visit my daughter. At least Charleston is completely flat in terrain, I may last longer. lol.
Despite our cancers, our conditions, and even with our various prognosisis, we still have to live, that's what it is all about to me at this point. The cancer is indeed an evil entity in my body, and while it may take my body out in time, it will never take away my mind and soul. I refuse to allow that to happen.
David in SC