i agree with you, i wouldnt be blaming your doctor. after my first cath was removed at 63 days, i peed fine for the first 4 hours, and like you remarked, had no problem holding it in, but like you, it was because i was already blocking up, lol.
you know you are in trouble if they can't get the smallest guide wire in place, i was in my 2nd ER situation with that happening, and at the last moment, they were able to get it in, and placed what was a child's size cath in place, until my regular uro had a chance to fix that particular stricture. had they not been able to get it started, it would have involved an emergency op to quickly put in a suprapubic catheter.
for a small group of men, they say in the 3-4% range, they can have chronic stricture problems, so hopefully you won't be in that elite group, its not fun, trust me. a few other men here at HW had singular stricture problems, once their uro dialated their urethras, it pretty well cured the problem. but for thos of us that have severe scarring issues, it usually ends up being more of a chronic condition.
good luck again, i know that none of this is any fun.
p.s. you mentioned self-cathing. they had such a dificult time sewing my urethra back to my bladder neck, thus the 63 days of waiting, that i was not allowed to self cath by my surgeon, as he was afraid that all i would do is damage myself further. not sure i could have done it, ended up being really traumatized by all the stricture and multiple catheter troubles i had.
Age: 60, 56 at PC dx, PSA 16.3
3rd Biopsy: 9/8 7 of 7 Positive, 40-90%, 4+3
open RP: 11/8, Catheter in 63 days
Path Rpt: 3+4, pT2c, 42g, 20% tumor, 1 pos margin
Incont & ED: None
Surgery Failed, recurrence within 9 months
Salvage Radiation 10/9-11/9, SRT failed within 9 months, PSA still rising
Spent total of 1 ½ years on 21 catheters, Ileal Conduit Surgery 9/10,
7 other PC-related surgeries
Member of Prostate Cancer & Chronic Pain HW Communities Since 10/2008
“I live in the weak and the wounded” – Session 9