Each of us has to find our own way on this one but I didn't tell anyone for awhile - except for my wife who has been with me every step of the way.
I needed time to sort things out. Didn't really start telling people until I had a treatment plan in place and had some idea what I would say. Most people I told were understanding and supportive. Only one was, um, 'less than helpful' but not nasty. I did find that many people were very curious about
PC and what was going on with me (there's a lot of miss and missing info out there - be ready to help fill in those that want to know more). The big thing was to figure out what I was going to share and to be ready for the questions that would pop up. I got a lot of, "I don't know what to say" and "Is there anything I can do." I did get a small number of responses like, "That sucks," and one or two, "My father/brother/uncle had that." I did find that my manager and people at work were very supportive but tended to treat me as fragile for awhile - they've gotten over that...
I did start a blog about
my journey with PC. Partly because the writing helped sort out my feelings and partly as a way to communicate with friends and family about
what was going on without having to retell the same story over and over. Fatigue was a real problem for me during treatment and I didn't have a lot of emotional energy for talk to everyone I know so the blog became a great way for me to stay in touch with lots of folks.
I one big surprise I got was at a woodworking club I attend - told them after a meeting I was going to miss a couple of months and was surprised by the number of men that say, "I had that." Found out that one guy in club was having surgery the next week.
You'll know when you're ready to start talking about
All the best,
I'll be in the shop.
PSA 4.2 10/11, 1.9 6/12
2 out of 14 cores positive
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