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Getting the incontinence under control is a challenge. I was a Depends pant + eight pads a day guy for three months after DaVinci surgery, so I can say I understand.
First thing to do is to go back to your urologist and or surgeon, and ask them to get you in to see a continence therapist. My uro has one on staff, and the hospital where your surgery was done may have one as well. They can help you with figuring out if you are doing Kegels correctly, and what other exercises may help. It is certainly worth the effort to try.
The next is to understand that progress may be in plateaus, not really recognizeable until after they happen. I suddenly realized I was at five pads a day when the mega-packs started lasting longer. It was about five months before I got to three pads a day.
What I learned the hard way was that I was overdoing the Kegels - too many are worse than not enough. Also, I split up my routine. I would walk three times a day for a shorter distance, and do one set of Kegels when I got in from each one. I went to the physical therapy nurse at the hospital where I did my surgery to get feedback on Kegel method, and discussion of the foods and beverages that can cause bladder irritation, and thus make the recovery harder.
One really hard to understand concept for most is that you need to keep up your plain water intake. The reason is to keep the bladder cleared of irritants.
I'm sure a lot of the guys here will chime in. Some of us have had some long battles with incontinence.
And just so that you don't feel unusual, there are several guys in one of my groups who had the same surgeon. Results range from dry the first day to having to have surgical implants. Part is the surgeon, but a lot has to do with each of our condition before surgery, and the recovery process.
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