I think some of the root cause of the forum tension comes individuals that have different values in the sense of what they expect to get out of this forum. For example, I once led a non-profit board. There were some fairly definitive categories of personalities. Some wanted harmony all the time even if it meant stifling debate and discussion. Others felt like we could not reach a good decision without "vigorous" debate .. even to the point of arguments and yelling .. for them, anything short of that and we had not done our job.
My quick impression of this forum: some want emotional support and friendship only. Others, however, seem to want to use this forum to drive future consensus on controversial PCa topics. And, for them, vigorous debate is essential to that process. Those diverse expectations are tough to reconcile in a manner to suit everyone.
For me, I like the robust information, including different points of view, and the support I find here. I do not feel personally compelled to drive change in the PCa medical world nor change the minds of others. But, I do not get upset if others engage in debate. Sometimes I find it informative. I know it is a fine line and the moderators have a tough job!
Age 52; dx at 50, PSA 54.9
open RP, 2010; removed 14 lymph nodes
Pathology report: T3bN0MX, SVI, neg margin, G9(5+4)
HT - ADT2, 36 months: 14 months left
Adjuvant RT, 75.6 Gy, including lymph nodes, 9/11
Adjuvant Taxotere (6 x 60 mg/m2), 6/12
Latest PSA <0.03, T=11