...my plan is to live fully and not have a wake with them for me the rest of my life.
Hah! That's great!!
Yeah, you know, I really don't want a hullabaloo from people. I too just want to live my life and I'm not making my cancer the center of it (at least, I don't have to yet). But avoidance is a weird feeling.
In fairness, I know I've done it too, so this is a learning moment for me. I don't feel any rancor, I just need to process this and find a wholesome way to deal with it. Just part of my new reality, I guess.