Aimzee, glad you caught up with this thread. It has grown amazingly large, and like you said, and the Mod above, most of it has been positive.
I think what most of us would agree on behalf of our friend and brother Rodger is this:
Professional counseling could be very useful for him, for her, for them as a couple.
However, counseling only has a chance, if, both couples are willing and wanting to be counseled, if both parties are willing to be totally honest - regardless of their feelings and input. And if they truly have a non-biased counseler to begin with.
Second, and this not a negative mark toward Rodger, is that we, as his peers here at HW, being both male and female, mostly married folks, some divorced, some not married, are only hearing one side of this story. We are hearing Rodgers side loud and clear, and I have no problems with the validity of his side. But we aren't hearing anything directly from his wife.
I know this isn't going to happen, but if by some means, his wife told her story, then, perhaps, we could see the whole story, and be in a better way to advise the two of them as a couple.
In the end, it may be a one sided situation, that is certainly possible. But without hearing both sides, its not feasable to draw any real conclusion.
I also believe, in the spirit of HW, we would as a group, love to see a happy solution to Rodgers problem, I don't see any issues of lack of support, sympathy and even empathy for what our brother here is going through and feeling.
Speaking for myself, I am hoping Rodger will digest the combined input here, and give us some kind of indication if there is any improvement, no matter how small, of his situation. I would like to think, that at least, he knows he is appreciated here, and well supported by the good people here at HW.
Its been a most interesting thread for sure, and I so hope that things work out for him at some point. This subject obviously hit a lot of nerves, both male and female among us.
Rodger, if you are reading this, please don't give up hope.
David in SC
Post Edited (Purgatory) : 10/12/2012 9:31:18 PM (GMT-6)