Welcome to our corner of the world.
You asked how we do it. I can only tell you how I do it.
I didn't have the easiest post recovery. The second day post surgery I happened to stumble into the bathroom for some reason and caught a glance at myself in the mirror. It was shocking. Oddly shaved chest hair, head hair all messed up, face unshaven, I hadn't changed my clothes since the event. I was carrying the yellow purse in in a 5 gallon driveway sealer bucket attached to a camera strap draped over my shoulder so I would not walk away and forget it like I had done a few times already.
The image in the mirror was so ridiculous I started to laugh. "He did what to whom in his image?"
The guys here really helped me see the bright side and laugh even though it hurts.
Trust me, it is better to make fun of wonky winkies and pasty pee pads than to cry about
ED and incontinence.
I truly believe much of it depends upon your outlook - and the drugs you take.
Good luck to you.
Age: 60, Mar 37 yrs, 56 dx, PSA: 4/09 17.8, 6/09 23.2
Biopsy: 6/09 7 of 12 Pos, 20-70%, Gleason 4+3 Bone, CT Neg
DaVinci RP: 7/09, U of Roch Med Ctr
Path Rpt: Glsn 3+4, pT3aNOMx, 56g, Tumor 2.5x1.8 cm both lobes and apex
EPE present, PNI extensive, Sem Ves, Vas def clear, Lymph 0/13
Incont: 200ml/day ED: Trimix
Post Surg PSA: 10/09 .04, 7/10 <0.01, 7/11 <0.01, 1/12 <0.02
AdV Sling 1/10/11 Dry