I know this topic has been covered many times, and I'm only bringing it up based on a conversation I had yesterday with a long-time co-worker. Since my Dx last July and treatment last September I have made the decision to tell very few about
my PCa - my primary reasoning being I didn't want a "pity party" or to have others treat me "differently." After all, so far so good on my front in terms of where I'm at and how I'm feeling, so no one knows the better.
So anyway I decided to tell this co-worker because we have worked very closely together for some 18 years, she in charge of Human Resources and my role as an operations manager. Additionally her family and my wife's go back a long way as farming families out in the county - including 4H together and so on so I have felt close to her both professionally and personally.
Since we both work late frequently I took the opportunity late yesterday to stop in her office, and essentially tell her a very short version of my journey. Her first and immediate reaction - "well, at least it's only prostate cancer so that's a good thing." That really took me back - "only prostate cancer????" - REALLY? I contained my reaction and the rest of our conversation went well, but I ran the full range of emotions on the drive home.
In some of the many prior threads on this topic I recall others having had the same thing happen, but until it happened to me I didn't have a full appreciation for what that felt like. While clearly I am absolutely not a "cancer martyr" and again don't want a pity party - but "only prostate cancer?" I guess that little reaction lends credence to my own personal feelings about not sharing this with others - one more reason not to.
Now in a complete reversal to all of that - I also very seriously want to help others out there that will find themselves joining our little club, and continue to try and do that primarily by staying here at HW and doing my "Pay Forward / Pay Back" thing. I also avail myself at as many of the monthly forums at the CPC as I'm able to attend and am also seriously considering writing a book about my experience - not from the perspective of giving advice but rather to share my own journey again for the sake of the newbies that will come along.
So not sure what all of the above does for any of you out there - but at the very least it helped get it off my chest!