Incontinence. There's something I know a little a bit about
. Sadly, I was in the same boat as you.
I, too, dribbled every time I stood up, turned, sneezed, bent, ... you know... the things you do about
500 times per day. Oh how well I remember the feeling of warm pee on my bits.
One of my heroes here, Goodlife, told me about
a device called a Cunningham clamp. Yep, it does just what you'd think... it chokes the chicken, so to speak. You clamp it on and in a couple of hours, when you are in front of a urinal you unclip it and "Whoosh!!" you're pushing the piss ice up the wall!
Unfortunately where I live, I needed a prescript
ion for such a dangerous, subversive piece of hardware. Clearly I might hurt myself. The state will allow me to buy a handgun and 3000 fps armor piecing ammo for a rifle but it will not let me buy a piece of plastic that clips in my leaky winky. Go figure.
Some kind individual here bought one for me and accidentally left it at my house after a visit. It enabled me to stand in front of an audience and make presentations without fear.
I learned to wear pee pads and swap them out very quickly. You will learn too. Here's a technique for you.
If you are a techie, you might find the analysis I performed on different pads and their storage capacity and leak points. I'll look it up if youlike.
In the meantime here is PeterDisAbelard's rule of thumb for changing them.
"I wear Depends underwear. I bought a package of pads before I bid farewell to Mr Foley and I used exactly one of them. The extra absorbancy of my comfy socks is all that saved my shoes that day. Since then I have relied on the extra security of the pull ups.
How often I change them depends on how much I am leaking on any given day and how cheap I am feeling (they cost money).
As a rule of thumb, when you start to develop an ice skaters stride -- waiting for the pendulum to start to swing back the other way before you take the next step -- you are not changing them often enough."
(I love that guy!)
Here's something important to remember. No matter how uncomfortable and debilitating it feels now, incontinence can be fixed. 2/3 of guys are dry at 3 months. Of the remaining 1/3, 2/3 of them are dry in a year. If you are one of the "lucky" 1/9 plan on having surgery to get it fixed. You won't regret it. I sure don't.
Age: 60, Mar 37 yrs, 56 dx, PSA: 4/09 17.8, 6/09 23.2
Biopsy: 6/09 7 of 12 Pos, 20-70%, Gleason 4+3 Bone, CT Neg
DaVinci RP: 7/09, U of Roch Med Ctr
Path Rpt: Glsn 3+4, pT3aNOMx, 56g, Tumor 2.5x1.8 cm both lobes and apex
EPE present, PNI extensive, Sem Ves, Vas def clear, Lymph 0/13
Incont: 200ml/day ED: Trimix
Post Surg PSA: 10/09 .04, 7/10 <0.01, 7/11 <0.01, 1/12 <0.02
AdV Sling 1/10/11 Dry