I just wanted to say that I have such great admiration for you women who deal with a difficult hand with such grace, and at the same time show genuine caring for others dealing with similar circumstances. It is an extraordinary demonstration of love and humanity. I helped my dad through his battle with prostate cancer, including the final part of that battle, so I guess I have some idea of what it is about
, though I know it is different with a spouse. To nhwife: my dad was happy when hospice care began -- he was so ready for it and so grateful for the pain relief and the message that "it is OK to focus on feeling well, rather than battling through the next treatment." I hope your husband gets the same relief and peace.
With great respect,