You can asked anyone here what their priorities were in curing prostate cancer. And the vast majority said to be disease free, to be continent and usually the very last is to enjoy sex, in that order.
He has so much to be thankful for! As you said he is continent, he has his health, and a loving and kind wife and family. All of which is a blessing. Many men here are worst off and would love to be in his shoes.
Your husband need to get a grip on his life, and seek additional help.
Good points for him to consider. At Mayo Clinic they told me that the goal of my surgery was threefold, in this exact order:
1- Cancer control
2- Urinary control
3- Sexual function
If you have the first one, that's the ticket. There is kind of a saying that runs through the PC community that refers to number 3. And that saying is that "Dead Men Do Not Have Sex." LOL
In any case, maybe his thoughts will begin to brighten up as more time goes on.
I hope so. :)
Resident of Highland, Indiana just outside of Chicago, IL.
July 2011 local PSA lab reading 6.41 (from 4.1 in 2009). Mayo Clinic PSA Sept. 2011 was 5.7.
Local urologist DRE revealed significant BPH, but no lumps.
PCa Dx Aug. 2011 at age of 61.
Biopsy revealed adenocarcinoma in 3 of 20 cores (one 5%, two 20%). T2C.
Gleason score 3+3=6.
CT of abdomen, bone scan both negative.
DaVinci prostatectomy 11/1/11 at Mayo Clinic (Rochester, MN), nerve sparing, age 62.
My surgeon was Dr. Matthew Tollefson, who I highly recommend.
Final pathology shows tumor confined to prostate.
5 lymph nodes, seminal vesicles, extraprostatic soft tissue all negative.
1.0 x 0.6 x 0.6 cm mass involving right posterior inferior,
right posterior apex & left mid posterior prostate.
Right posterior apex margin involved by tumor over a 0.2 cm length, doctor says this is insignificant.
Pathology showed Gleason 3 + 3, pT2c, N0, MX, R1
adenocarcinoma of the prostate.
Prostate 98.3 grams, tumor 2 grams. Prostate size 5.0 x 4.7 x 4.5 cm.
Abdominal drain removed the morning after surgery.
Catheter out in 7 days. No incontinence, occasional minor dripping.
Post-op exams 2/13/12, 9/10/12, 9/9/13 PSA <0.1. PSA tests now annual.
Firm erections now briefly happening in early mornings, 2 years post-op.