Al, I'm with you - I don't want to give up on women either (or "woman" in my case).
My diary on this forum should be here: www.healingwell.com/community/default.aspx?f=35&m=2371384
How long was the recovery?
As you see in the thread, I had intercourse at 4 weeks, but it was not enjoyable until about
6 weeks. I'd plan on a total of 8 weeks before you are at wild abandon.
Was it a nasty disfiguring deal ?
There was a lot of bruising initially, but nothing permanent. I do have a bit of a bulge at the base of my abdomen, but I did not notice it until I lost a lot of excess weight.
How long should it last once it is done?
Although there are some infrequently bad stories of early failures (see www.franktalk.org for some experiences), I expect mine to last 15 years or so. My understanding is that the surgery to replace is much simpler than the initial surgery, so I am not apprehensive about
the eventual replacement if I last that long.
Does it feel at least somewhat like a normal erection?
It has been a long time since I had a "normal" erection, so I am not completely sure how to answer this. My wife LOVES my implant - I can stay as hard as she could possibly want for as long as she wants. I never retained an erection past orgasm before my prostatectomy, but now it is entirely up to her how long I stay hard. Yes - to me it feels very normal, aside from the fact that I make it erect independent of whether I am aroused or not. The brand that I have increases in length slightly over time - I inflate it daily when I shower. Over time, you gain a small amount of length relative to the initial size.
Can your baby tell you have a pump?
I have never had the opportunity or need to hide the fact that I have it with my partner (wife). But I am convinced that I would be able to if I wanted. I can inflate it some of the way with one hand, but it is much easier if I use both. Let me put it this way - it would be MUCH easier to hide an implant than the fact that you are going to inject before sex. However, if your partner is going to go exploring, they will likely discover your "third testicle" - the pump is in the scrotum and is about
the size of a testicle. Although I no longer notice it, that was the biggest adjustment.
How did it fix the Peyronies?
The implant is stronger than the Peyronie's tissue, and therefore I have a straight erection again. The skin of the head tilts a little, kind of stretched, but nothing that affects operation. Before the implant, I had a tilt to the right about
15 degrees and upwards about
15 degrees. It was enough to make intercourse difficult and very awkward, and distracting. Aside from this, my "effective length" was much less than I was used to before. I mention this because the doc said that if the Peyronie's is drastic enough, he would recommend a different brand, and if severe enough, you need to have surgery to correct the Peyronie's at the same time, which is a more complicated procedure. You would need to talk to your doc and give him an accurate idea of how much bend you have to know what your options are. I'll say it completely corrected mine.
The implant does sound scary - actually to me, injections did at first as well. But as you probably see from the diary, the pain was not as bad as I expected. I would do it again for the outcome I have had.
I'm here for any other questions - or let me know if you ever want to talk via PM.