We went to Mayo last week and met with the doctor (in fact, more than one doctor) who also discussed with us removal of the bladder in addition to the prostatectomy.
This is the same thing they wanted to do to my husband since the tumor was invading his bladder.
Please, please get a 2nd opinion or even a third from an oncologist who specializes in prostate cancer.
We sought out Dr. Scholz in Marina del Rey just 11 days before the scheduled surgery. his first statement to us was "Please tell me that you are not going through with that surgery."
That visit was a life changer for us. My husband had the same symptoms as yours initially. After a few months of hormone therapy, the tumor shrunk away from his bladder. He still gets up once or twice at night, but at least he can empty his bladder now.
After the tumor shrunk, he was a candidate for radiation.
His last PSA test, which was this week is still at <.015!
We are so thankful we sought other opinions. My husband is quite fond of his bladder and his completely happy to still be attached to it. :)
Sorry for the delay in getting back to you and shipping the books. It's been a hectic week! Hopefully we can talk this weekend and find out which books you need so there is no duplication between JNF and me.