The link that 142 posted was invaluable to me. I discovered it less than a week before my surgery and it helped me add many items to my list.
We stayed 1 week across the street from the hospital until the catheter came out. Don't buy too much food until after his surgery. I was put on a special diet and my wife had to scramble to find something to make me. I actually enjoyed peanut butter and jelly sandwiches for lunch, like a kid, good comfort food.
I brought a portable DVD player and movies but I ended up watching the Food Channel a lot, probably because there was so much I couldn't eat it looked good to me. I brought a case of water, a must, decaf coffee, chicken noodle soup and crackers.
It really turned out to be the best way to recover. He needs to rest, walk, drink water, rest, drink water, etc. I feel if I was at home, I might have fiddled around the house and over worked myself. He shouldn't be lifting anything over 5 lbs. for weeks after the surgery.
Good luck to you both.
Bill from Florida
Age - 63
Feb. 2012 - PSA 18.5 Biopsy 4/27/12
Positive 10 of 12 cores, Gleason 6 then
Da Vinci Surgery 07/17/12, Dr. Vipul Patel
EPE, positive margins, Gleason 3+4=7, involving 50% of gland, prostate weight 57 g. Stage pT3a, Lymph node involvement: 0/4
All post-op PSA tests through 10/15/13 undetectable <0.1
PSA 1/15/14 0.1, 4/1/14 - <0.1, 6/24 - 0.1
AUS AMS 800 installed 4/11/14 finally dry