I was in the same position as you about two months ago and posted on the board, after lurking for about one month during the waiting period. My husband, right before his 62nd birthday received his biopsy results back. He had 11 of 12 cores positive, 10 were gleason 6 and 1 was a gleason 7 (3+4). We had a second reading of the biopsy from Hopkins and it was still 11 cores positive with all being a gleason 6. My fear was that the original biopsy was under-reading the gleason; although the urologist seemed surprised when we said we wanted another reading - he thought that we were thinking another reading was not going to see cancer (seems like a strange reaction when 11 of the 12 cores were positive, even with many of them being at a low volume - that would be quite a screw up!!).
My husband choose surgery and is scheduled for August 19th. We interviewed 2 surgeons. The surgeon he selected was the one with the most experience, who is the head of Urology at UPMC (which is the big medical center and a National Institute of Cancer center of excellence in Pittsburgh) and only treats prostate cancer. It will be the open procedure, because that is what he does. In the end we felt that the overall skill and experience of the surgeon was more important than whether it was open or robotic and with more than 3,000 surgeries under his belt just in Pittsburgh, not counting his years training and working at Hopkins with Walsh, he was the best bet for what is a complicated surgery.
Obviously we are nervous about how the surgery will go and what the final path report will look like, but my moments of total panic are diminishing. The people on the board were very supportive to me and I actually received a response from someone who had surgery earlier in the year with the same surgeon my husband is using and he and I exchanged e-mails and he spoke with my husband just this week via phone.
I have cut back on my internet time about this as it is both informative, but at times frightening with information overload. There are some really good resources out there; the Walsh book is a very good one as people have said and we both read that. Also, Dr. John McHugh's book "The Decision" is a good and helpful read . He is a urologist who "got his disease" at a relatively young age and writes a very understandable and helpful book for the first part of this journey - a quick and easy read.
Good luck. If you want to exchange e-mails off site to prop each other up, my address is available from my profile I believe.