A number of people seemed offended because they got the impression I said PTSD was the ONLY reason SOME men live in misery with ED and won't consider an implant. My point was base your decision on the facts not your fears. Obviously there are dozens of reasons not to have the implant and they are all valid reasons.
Almost a 10 and Bigal I'll answer your questions:
You talk as though having an implant was a cure for ED when in is not!
We disagree here. Before surgery I was impotent, know I can have erections and resume making love with my wife. For me that restoration fits the definition of a cure. A cure does mean everything is restored to a pre surgery level.
having the sense of relief when a man ejaculates.
Like you there was a time when I hated the fact I no longer ejaculated and felt my experience with orgasms were ruined. I got over that grief. Now I enjoy my orgasms without ejaculation. In fact I told me wife the other day that I doubted I could tell the difference anymore about
whether or not I've ejaculated because my orgasms feel as good as they did before surgery minus the mess. So I no longer mind the absence of ejaculation.
those impulses that we used to feel when someone crossed our path to get us aroused?
As a married man who is in his 60's I lost that before surgery. There was a time when simply seeing my wife resulted in an erection. If I want that experience again, I can look at her and pump myself up. It's different, but it works and I enjoy that.
having a nocturnal erection? Will that return?
Once gain you are focused on what you've lost and can't get back. If I'm not mistaken there's a touch or boat load, I don't know which of anger about
these losses you've experienced. They are losses that need to be grieved before you'd enjoy any form of restoration. As for nocturnal erections, I'm delighted they are gone, all they did for me at night was to keep me awake. I sleep much better without them. In fact in my 30's I went to my Urologist and asked if he could give me anything to prevent nocturnal erections. Little did I know PC surgery would take care of that problem.
So when you discuss implants a cure, what do you really mean?
I mean this-two weeks ago my wife and I couldn't enjoy making love. Now we have mind blowing sex that involves sexual intercourse. After years of impotence and missing that experience I can safely say I feel cured of ED and mean just what I said.
Do you feel the implant was worth it?
Getting an implant was one of the best decisions I've made in my life. Why would I want to deprive myself and my wife of making love for the next two decades when we live in an era where most insurance companies covers the procedure and that implants have come a long way in terms of safety and reliability.
Do you honestly feel it has restored your sex life?
YES I do! Yet Is it different. I make feel more natural. For instance I have my wife rub my penis while I use the pump, so I have the experience of getting hard while she's touching me. After an orgasm, I like to deflate the pump so I have the experience of getting soft again after I've been satisfied. So we do things so the sequence of events is familiar.
Does it feel somewhat natural?
Once I'm enjoying sex there's no difference in my mind from pre surgery with one delightful exception. I know I can stay hard as long as my wife needs me to. No more early orgasms and incomplete experiences.
The sense of confidence brought about
by implant is a life altering confidence.
Does your partner feel happy with the result and finds it seems natural?
My wife couldn't be more delighted.
Is it fun again?
Oh yea! It's amazingly fun AND no more worries about
whether I'll stay hard or enough or orgasm too early. It's way past fun. It's amazing. In many ways it's BETTER than pre surgery sex. So if you've grieved your losses and ready to embrace a new post surgery sex life, and implant is a cure for ED.
Post Edited (RickRed40) : 3/22/2015 10:33:02 AM (GMT-6)