Thank you for your responses. I really appreciate it.
I visited Dad today, as usual, In good form :) in my previous message I think I mentioned the consultant saying that 'this would not kill him', these were not the exact words. He said that hormones can work for years and years. He did say there are different options, one being a more aggressive approach, meaning radiotherapy (unsure which type) but he felt at this stage that it wasn't necessary and he made the decision for Dad to wait till August. If the lymph node has not shrunk, not sure if that was the word he used, but basically he meant if the injections had no effect on the lymph node near the tummy button then it's probably not related. It could even be something he has always had. He was apparently rather perplexed as he said that it was most common for the cancer to spread to the lymph nodes in the groin... I don't think he had seen this before and considered it unusual.
I'm praying it's nothing and I'm hoping that the cancer is confined to the prostate but I honestly don't know. Mum has not read up like me, it would make her more anxious, I'm the opposite! This site helps a great deal, however, knowing certain things and not having a medical background makes it all a little confusing!
He did not recommend surgery, age, other medications he takes, other conditions, risk of a number of things. He did not want to put Dad through that.
One thing I am happy about
is that he apparently had a lovely manner. He was very positive, he did talk through everything with Dad to confirm he understood it all. He did mention the high grade but all in all... It's a waiting game. I guess I had kind of hoped that radiotherapy would have started, get the darn thing killed off but he's the expert. This place does have a good reputation so I'm trying my best not to second guess anything.
Oh... One more thing! My Dad's psa was 16.1, he suggested it was probably more towards 30. My Dad had been on medication which would have lowered the number. I can't remember the name of it! Finister?? It's a med they give to treat an enlarged prostate. This may explain why this wasn't picked up earlier.... However... I do feel that during his 6 monthly checks they should have been aware of this at the hospital! He did say he wanted to get the psa level down, I think he said he would be ok with it being 5... and ideally to 0. When your psa is 0 are you considered to be in remission?? Sorry if that's a really daft question, just confused! I really don't know without having been there whether a cure is possible or they are just 'controlling' it. I'm guessing the latter.
Anyway.... That's the news do far. Apologies for rambling post... Think I've repeated myself numerous times haha.
Thank you everyone. Will keep you updated. You're all in my prayers xx
Post Edited (Kathy77) : 4/7/2015 3:28:48 PM (GMT-6)