Sad news to report

David,

Condolences from here also. Give yourself the time it takes to grieve as you need to. My only suggestion is don't let yourself be sucked into some sort of blame game with doctors who missed something obvious. That path, in my experience, doesn't heal or help anything.

Very sorry for your loss, David.

David –

I just signed on and learned this sad news, and like all the rest I offer my very sincere condolences. Dealing with the loss of a parent, especially a mother, is always one of life's most difficult challenges

So many wise and thoughtful comments have already been made here that I feel at a loss to add to them. I can only say that the relationship that one has with one's parents is probably the most unique of all human relationships. It fills and affects our lives so much, often more than we realize.

For example, over the past few decades I have seen relationship patterns form with my own two sons in various ways that mirror those I have had with my own mom. Surprising to me at first, but after reflection, perhaps not so surprising after all. It's the cycle of life, passing from one generation to the next.

I have always read with great interest the occasional accounts of life with your own mom that you have posted here in the past, because your situation with your mom mirrored my own: an elderly mother, widowed, living in a condo nearby, frequent visits, becoming her "eyes and ears" in many ways, health issues, but still very much mentally alert, and generally polite and concerned more about family members than herself (although she can still get a bit "rough around the edges" sometimes). (But then, mom always has suffered fools badly). <grin>

My own mom will turn 94 next month. She has outlived almost all of her (and my) relatives of her generation and has had, and I think she would agree with this, a good life. I don't look forward to the day when she must leave, but I believe that when the time comes she will do so with dignity and grace.

David, an enormous benefit of this forum is that we each have the opportunity to offer and share advice on how to deal with life's challenges, both in the case of this PCa thing, but as well in other areas. There are likely a number of us here who have elderly parents, and we may eventually ourselves be facing the issues of loss that you are facing right now. So while it is probably too soon to do so now, as time passes if you gain any insights on how to handle such a loss, if you would, please do post and share them with us. It could well make dealing with such loss easier for someone else in the future.

Finally, as has been rightly pointed out recently, this forum is not the place for us to speculate on our loved ones' existence in heaven. But if I may be allowed just one comment, I'll bet that your mom is looking down right now on you and her other children and loved ones with great pride and affection, so happy in knowing that she had been your mom.

Again, very sincere condolences, David, and be comforted in knowing that you had such a great mom.

So sorry for your loss David. Our hearts and prayers are with you and your family.

Sonny

I am so sorry for your loss. All the best to you and your family in the days, months and years ahead.

Michael

I am sorry to hear this sad news. I am sorry for your loss David. God bless you and your family

David,
So sorry to hear of your loss. May the good Lord give you and your family strength and courage to get through these difficult times.
1snake

Hi David,

Sorry to hear about your mother.

There isn't much I can say. I've lost both my parents and know how you must feel. For me, there isn't much that can fill that void except for all the love and memories...

Take care.

Mike

Thanks again, one and all.

Been a long time for me, to go through this kind of heart pain, not easy to adjust to it. Feel like a hole has been dug, and it can't be re-filled, and my brain keeps playing tricks on me, keeps wanting to hit some imaginary rewind button that doesn't exist, keep thinking there's some way to get a different ending. Of course, the rational side that's left, knows that isn't going to happen, but part of my brain keeps flooding me with irrational thoughts on the subject. Sure some of you can relate to what I am saying.

SC has some strange and difficult laws around cremation, so my brother has been having a difficult time of getting arrangements done in time. Plus, with some relatives being from CO, it didn't dawn on us that over Memorial Day weekend, that most flights were fully booked out. My sister is having a difficult time getting a flight for her and her boys. We are still shooting for Sunday, but who knows at this point.

Sure it will work out in the end. Life never gets any easier, does it?

David:

I'm so sorry that you've suffered this loss. I know how hard it is to have a parent pass away, I know when my Mother passed I thought my world had stopped and would never restart. Even though I was at her side when she left this world, it still felt as if I were dreaming.

Times like this, it's hard to know what to say. So, I'll say this to you, you're right life is never easy. I hope that you and your family are able to have the services on Sunday. I pray that the autopsy results provide you with the answers you need, so that you'll know what exactly happened to your Mother. She lived through many trials and had a very hard life at times.

May your memories of her bring you comfort and your beliefs also comfort you. Please know that I'm here for you if you'd like to reach out and talk. You have both my number and email. I'm truly sorry about your Mother and you and your family will be in my prayers.

Hugs,
Barbara

David, I am so sorry to read of your loss. I know how the loss of a parent feels. You area correct, that hole will never fill. But it can and will ease. I hope you hear about the autopsy results soon. I understand the frustration of hospitals and doctors who don't seem to care about 'getting it right' for older patients. My prayers for you and your family will now include requests for your heart healing and soul peace. Hugs!!!

David
So sorry for your loss.

You'll have been blessed by being able to be with her so much & vice versa. May you find comfort in those memories.

Prayers for all of your family & friends.

David
So very sorry to hear of your loss. Take comfort in knowing you cared for her so closely for so many years. I wish I could have lived closer to my Mom before she passed at age 80 of Alzheimer's. She did know us until the end, and even as an "old" man of 55 she still called me her "Danny Boy". I am positive she appreciated everything you did for her, and had that very special bond until the end. And now a new beginning in a beautiful place with no pain, far removed from this world, on the wings of eagles. Take care my Brother from another- special Mother
Dan in So Cal