My heart breaks for you all every time I come to this thread, but I keep coming back. I truly hope you find some peace, and there is no way to express my wish that your pain and hardship would stop.
I went through it with my mom, 30 years ago and I still vividly remember the pain I felt. I can't imagine what it must be like to experience that with a life partner.
Beejane, I get your point and it was very well put, and still sensitive to the feelings of those suffering.
With that said, I understand how the rest of you feel, it's the human spirit to fight and not give up, I say that as long as your spouses are willing to fight, support them in that willingness and fight on. IF they have the will, they deserve that support.
Age 64 (in 2014), PSA Feb 2006 - Nov 2014, PSA rose from .7 to 4.3
Nov 2012 - Biopsy - 14 cores all negative for PCa, 1 showed Hi Grade PIN
Nov 2014 BX 3 of 12 cores positive original pathology G6 10%, G6 20%, G8 (3+5), 70%.
G3+5=8 downgraded to 3+3=6 @80% by Dr Epstein, JH
Surgery with Dr Ash Tewari Jan 6, 2015
Post surgical pathology – G7 (3+4), ECE, Margins, LN, SV all negative
PSA @ 6 weeks 2/15, .<02, 4/15 <.02 7/15 <.02
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