Dude, I'm 50, have been married 2 years, I'm terrified and telling me I don't have it as bad as you do flys in the face of all the helpful advice, compassion and encouragement I have received here. Yes I know I have it better than starving children in Africa too... But frankly this is not helpful mate... And I'm rarely unimpressed.
I'll assume you are having a bad day (as I was at that point) and hope that things look up. I realize that from where you are sitting having gone through all this, I may look pathetic, but I am where I am, on the ledge... In uncharted territory, lost, confused, bitter, frightened... depressed... You name it. Try and put yourself back there without the benefit of hindsight and consider How you made it through those dark early days, weeks and months?
What's the quote... "Be kind to everyone you meet, for they too are fighting a great battle".
Paul, back away from the ledge! Have you not believed my previous posts to you? Let me repeat: No surgery for you!(In voice of the soup N*zi from Seinfield) Even assuming you are actually going to need some kind of treatment, you absolutely will not be required to have surgery, no matter what the results of your biopsy! There are other treatments which will most likely give you at east as good of a chance of long term survival as surgery. Therefore, you don't have to have surgery!
if it turns out you actually do need some kind of curative treatment, but you don't have to have surgery, then the odds are fairly high that you will not have any major sexual SEs, and if you have any at all they will appear years down the road. Even then, the odds are they won't be as severe as some of us surgery guys have (boy I wish some one had convinced me that I did not absolutely have to have surgery, or at least I wish I had listened better).
So do you see all of that good news there Brother? IF
you actually need anything at all, you DO NOT HAVE TO HAVE SURGERY! Which means you (most likely) DO NOT HAVE TO HAVE MAJOR LONG LASTING/PERMANENT SEXUAL SEs! It's good news Bro!
So back away from the ledge!
I am trying to be kind by convincing you of the good news that applies to you! It could have applied to me also, I wish I had encountered someone to beat me over the head with it. But I really have no excuse because I knew the above in my heart and did not listen to my heart or head. But you are not going to be able to say no one beat you over the head with these facts because I am doing so!
Now if you are one of those folks that just have to have it cut out of you, and you could never relax otherwise, then there is not much I can do to help you. You pays your money and you takes your chances. But, unlike me, some do end up lucky in the surgery/sex roulette, so even then all is not lost.IF
you are in the unlucky group that not only has PC but has a real bad Bx report that requires not only RT but HT(or even HT only I suppose) then you may have some issues coming up. But you don't know that yet, and that odds are you are NOT in that group. And even if you end up needing some HT, you might can get off of it later and you might can recover, and then in a few years they might develop that miracle cure. So back away from that ledge!
PSA 10.9 ~112013
Bx on 112013 at age 64 yrs 11 months, with 5 of 12 pos with one G9(5+4), 1 PNI, T2B.
RALP with lymph nodes at Vanderbilt 021914. (nodes clear, but SV+, still G9 but down graded to 4+5, cut wide, but 1 tiny foci right at the edge of margin ) Pros. 106.7 gms!
At 15 months, not wearing a pad most days, mostly dry
PSA <.01 on 6/11, 8/20/14 and 3/4/15, up to .01 on 9/1/15
Post Edited (BillyBob@388) : 10/31/2015 4:47:18 PM (GMT-6)